Glossary

Every term this book defines, with the chapter that defined it.

Definitions are given as the chapter gave them. Where a term was extended later, the later sense follows the first, marked Also: — this book never silently redefines a term, and where you see two senses, both are live.

📜 A note on the numbers inside these definitions. Costs, ratios, and industry norms are Tier 2 planning figures and vary by country, city, season, and year. The arithmetic transfers; the numbers do not. See Appendix B.

The Twenty-Five Threshold Concepts

These are the ideas the book treats as thresholds — once crossed, the work looks different. Each is listed at the chapter that introduces it.

the −10 day email / −4 week RSVP / −14 day guarantee chain (Ch.19 §19.2)

the RSVP deadline is set by the caterer's guarantee, not by preference

the 60/30/10 discipline (Ch.16 §16.3)

dominant/secondary/accent. At a wedding the venue is the 60% and the couple's palette is the 10%

A

A/B list (Ch.5 §5.7)

tiered invitations released in waves as declines arrive. Ethical if the second wave lands >3 weeks out and the tiers never leak

the absence of complaints is evidence of nothing (Ch.29 §29.2)

the chapter's foundation, and the commonest error in the subject is treating silence as data

the absence test (Ch.40 §40.5)

give the book to somebody competent who was not involved, answer nothing, and write down every question. It cannot be self-administered: you cannot find what you do not know is missing

access window (Ch.10 §10.3)

the period between permitted vendor arrival and required removal. The most consequential operational term at any venue

the activity-data pack (Ch.35 §35.8a)

send activity data, never your own emissions spreadsheet, because a number produced in an afternoon becomes a line in a disclosure with legal weight. And it is a service you can charge for

additional insured (Ch.8 §8.2, Ch.9 §9.4)

a party covered under another's policy for claims arising from that party's work. Venues almost always require it; a vendor without a certificate will not be admitted · Also: another party added to a policy by endorsement, for claims arising from the named insured's work. What venues actually require

administrative fee (Ch.6 §6.4)

an additional 2–5%, almost never distributed to staff. The softest of the three multipliers to negotiate

AFF (Ch.18 §18.3)

above finished floor. String at 8–10 ft; below 8 and guests hit it, above 12 and it stops being intimate

allergy vs. preference (Ch.14 §14.3)

a safety issue and a hospitality issue, needing different systems. A protocol vs. a good dish and a correct count

all-in cost (Ch.6 §6.4, Ch.10 §10.2)

the total including every multiplier and every fee outside the per-head price · Also: a venue's true cost: site fee or loaded minimum, plus everything it does not provide, plus constraint costs, permits, insurance, and planner hours

all-inclusive venue (Ch.1 §1.3)

a venue providing kitchen, staff, furniture, tableware, power, lighting, restrooms, and parking

the all-lights-off sweep (Ch.18 §18.2, §18.7)

every work light and venue fixture off, walked and checked by a person. Free, and the highest-return line on the sheet

allocated budget (Ch.6 §6.3)

the budget built in six steps: true total → non-negotiables off the top → contingency off the top → step items at the plausible high → remainder against the ranking → benchmark check

allocation (of names) (Ch.5 §5.4)

dividing the guest count among owners, proportionally, equally, or by contribution. Decided explicitly

anchor image (Ch.4 §4.8)

a board image included in the vision document, annotated with what specifically is being responded to. Unannotated, it is worse than useless

the anchor track (Ch.22 §22.7)

what plays immediately after the first dance, with no gap and no talking

the annotated anchor image (Ch.4 §4.8, extended Ch.16 §16.5)

an image plus what specifically is referenced. The annotation is the entire content

the arc (music) (Ch.22 §22.4)

the peak goes two-thirds through the dancing, and 40–70 minutes before a curfew, whichever is earlier

arrive as a colleague, not a supplicant (Ch.38 §38.2)

“is there anything about the site that catches planners out?” Asks for nothing, signals competence in two lines

ask, do not provide (Ch.29 §29.5)

the failure is almost never provision. “Any special requirements?” fails because it asks a guest to classify themselves, and the people who need most will not

the ask goes early (Ch.32 §32.4)

before the main course, not at 9:40 after a long film and four hours of bar. Free, one conversation with a caterer, and worth $102,000 at Fairhaven

assemble → inject → fix → read through → distribute (Ch.40 CS1)

injections generate changes and read-throughs verify them, so the order matters

assignment (Ch.8 §8.2)

whether the contract itself may be transferred to another business

the assistant years (Ch.41 §41.2a)

two to three years is a training; six is a job with no ceiling. The test: are you still seeing things you have not seen before?

attack the base (Ch.6 §6.4.1)

when percentages are stacked on a cost, reduce the base rather than negotiating the rates. Roughly 7× the effect

attendance rate (Ch.5 §5.6)

the share of a guest category that accepts. 75–85% local overall; long-haul social friends 35–55%

attention (Ch.27 §27.7)

the scarcest resource, ahead of time and energy. Consumed by delegable tasks, by remembering, and most expensively by reconciling

attribution (Ch.38 §38.6)

one column, two questions: how did you hear about me and do you remember who mentioned my name?

the attribution problem (Ch.31 §31.9)

you can measure that something changed; you cannot show the event caused it. Report the number and name the problem in the same sentence

the audit (Ch.25 §25.1)

every open finding in four columns before a timeline is built. “Living with it” is a legitimate status, and a plan that marks everything “pending” depends on nineteen future events

the authority question (Ch.21 §21.1)

six sources in order: officiant (requirements) · the family member who holds the tradition (what this family does) · the couple · a cultural vendor (what actually takes how long) · published sources · and the wedding industry, which is almost worthless

the automation test (Ch.39 §39.9a)

does this remove typing, or does it remove judgment? A tool may draft anything and may decide nothing

AV on its own leg (Ch.34 §34.5)

a kitchen's compressors become a flickering screen in front of 400 people. And a backup without automatic transfer is eleven minutes of darkness

average guest cost (Ch.5 §5.3)

total budget ÷ headcount. Useful only for describing a completed wedding; never for a decision

B

back of house (Ch.10 §10.3)

the space vendors need to stage, store, plate, and work out of sight

backward planning (Ch.25 §25.3)

forward planning hides the failure at the end; backward shows it at the top, where the options still exist

the bad-news promise (Ch.3 §3.5)

an explicit month-one commitment to deliver problems immediately and completely, which pre-negotiates the right to do so

the banquet multiplier (Ch.31 §31.7)

service × tax. At 24% and 9% it is 1.3516, a $58 lunch costs $78.39, and it applies to everything

bar face (Ch.11 §11.3)

6–8 linear feet per bartender; one station per 75–100 guests

batched cocktail (Ch.15 §15.1, §15.4)

pre-mixed and poured over ice. 8 seconds against 45–90. Simultaneously the fastest, cheapest, and most personal item on a drinks list

battery PA (Ch.18 §18.4, §18.5)

0 W, 4–8 hrs. The answer for an outdoor ceremony with no power, and it removes a cable run entirely

becoming the reason things happen (Ch.32 §32.7)

a planner who absorbs a committee's unfinished work has run a smooth event and destroyed its purpose. Report the gap, to the chair, with names

benchmark allocation (Ch.6 §6.2)

typical category shares. Useful for noticing strangeness and omissions; never for allocating

BEO (banquet event order) (Ch.14 §14.4)

the caterer's operational document. Four things usually wrong: count, dietary meals, equipment assumption, staffing — the one that costs the evening

the beverage mix (Ch.15 §15.2)

wine 40–50%, beer 20–30%, spirits 15–25%, non-alcoholic 5–10%. The last is under-forecast almost universally

the billable ratio (Ch.36 §36.1)

only ~60% of hours worked can be sold (35–50% in year one). Anybody claiming 90% is not counting something

board pricing (Ch.4 §4.5)

walking a board image by image, identifying the cost driver and the client's actual response, and designing the cheap version. Not a cost-reduction exercise

booking cluster (Ch.7 §7.2)

deposits in the first 30–90 days, typically ~16% of budget

the boundary problem (Ch.35 §35.2)

count everything caused · count only what you purchased · or count everything and report the two separately. What is not defensible is choosing the boundary after seeing the numbers

budget drift (Ch.7 §7.5)

accumulation of small variances. Three signals: cumulative variance, burn rate, and the non-financial tells (which arrive first)

burn rate (Ch.7 §7.5)

variance per month. Projected final variance = current + (last 3 months' average × months remaining)

the business objective (Ch.31 §31.1)

a corporate event has one, and somebody will be asked about it by name. Everything is justified against it or it is inherited

the “but” clause (Ch.4 CS1)

“X but not Y.” The client naming the version of their own word they are afraid of. More useful than the word

C

cable ramp (Ch.13 §13.3)

required wherever cable crosses a path. A trip hazard is Ch.9's liability chain

cancellation clause (Ch.8 §8.4)

the event does not happen. Should be a sliding scale, of the contract price, with a mirror provision for vendor cancellation

capability as the strongest measure (Ch.31 §31.9)

a certification or demonstrated skill, and it must be designed into the agenda before the event, not asked about afterwards

the capacity ceiling (Ch.41 §41.6)

a career with no natural stopping point expands to fill whatever a person will give it. “Fourteen weddings” is a limit. “Not too many” is not

a capacity is about an activity (Ch.28 CS2)

the barn seats 89 for a dinner and holds 211 for a ceremony. Twelve square feet a head is a dinner figure; a ceremony is six

capacity pricing / the Saturday count (Ch.37 §37.5)

required revenue ÷ sellable Saturdays = the minimum viable fee. $80,850 ÷ 16 = **$5,053**

the capacity problem (Ch.39 §39.11)

a planner will implement three or four changes a season. A change you decided not to make is a decision; a change you forgot is a finding that died

the card-box protocol (Ch.30 §30.3)

one named owner · moved by 9:30, not at the end · and somebody confirms out loud. “I'm sure someone's got it” precedes every loss

the cascade (Ch.25 §25.4a)

delay is directional, not additive. The same twenty minutes costs nothing at 9 a.m., nothing visible at 1 p.m., and the party at 8:15 p.m.

cash bar (Ch.15 §15.1)

guests buy their own. A sale, and therefore a licensing question before it is a social one. Slows service 30–50%

cash flow crunch (Ch.7 §7.2)

the two months where ~80% of the money moves. Invisible on a budget document

category D (Ch.28 §28.4)

officiant · caterer · venue · power. The only vendors whose failure the event does not survive, and where the vetting effort belongs

the ceremony arc (Ch.20 §20.1)

rises to the vows and ends fast after the pronouncement. Material after the kiss is played to people who have finished

the ceremony ledger (Ch.20 CS1)

a running clock started at the first request from outside the couple, with an agreed ceiling. Converts every future addition into a trade the couple make themselves, rather than a refusal the planner makes

the ceremony-hour sheet (Ch.40 §40.2)

one page, six blocks, eleven minutes. The walk · seating with reserved names · speaking · timing · medical · the rain variant. The artefact the book was missing for twenty-eight chapters

certificate holder (Ch.9 §9.4)

the party the certificate was issued to. An address. Confers nothing

certificate of insurance (COI) (Ch.9 §9.3)

a broker's one-page summary. Evidence on the date of issue, not a contract and not a guarantee

certifications, honestly (Ch.41 §41.2)

they produce structure, a peer network, and institutional credibility. They do not produce clients. Fourth in the ranking of what a newcomer's money buys, and frequently bought first

chain of liability (Ch.9 §9.1)

every party plausibly connected to an incident. A claim names all of them; who pays is set by insurance and contract, not by fault

chair-day (Ch.1 CS2)

the true unit of rental pricing: a share of a chair's whole lifecycle (storage, transport, labor, cleaning, damage reserve), not the chair

change order (Ch.2 §2.6)

a written specification of added work and its fee, approved before work begins. Makes scope change a procedure rather than a confrontation

change order (financial) (Ch.7 §7.4)

five lines: what, requested by, cost, revised total, source of funds, approval. The source-of-funds line is the whole mechanism

the changeover / set and break (Ch.22 §22.2)

a band plays 3 × 45 min with 2 × 20 min breaks. Forty minutes in which either something covers it or the floor empties

the chase (Ch.19 §19.4)

two contacts, split by side. It belongs to the couple, not the planner — a message from the people getting married gets answered

a clause is not a plan (Ch.33 CS1)

“the Coordinator shall arrange suitable cover” is a sentence. The test: could you execute this today, without the other party?

the cold start (Ch.38 §38.5a)

the bootstrap problem, named and not solved. Four ways in: work for somebody else · be the second planner · a community you belong to · a competence most planners lack. Advertising is not one

colour temperature / CCT (Ch.18 §18.2)

specify the number, not the word. “Warm white” spans 2,700–4,000 K; the target is 2,700 K or warmer

commission / kickback (Ch.1 §1.5)

a payment from a vendor to a planner for referred business; a conflict of interest the client has not consented to. Disclosure makes it defensible, not neutral

the committee (Ch.32 §32.7)

for selling tables and securing sponsors, not for approving linen. A specific individual quantified ask works; a general collective one does not

communication cadence (Ch.3 §3.7)

scheduled contact (monthly → bi-weekly → weekly) that gives a client a container for small questions

the communication protocol (Ch.33 §33.3a)

batch, do not drip · number every question · deadline in their time zone · one scheduled call a week for the whole year · written follow-up inviting correction

the comparisons (Ch.35 §35.2)

one transatlantic guest ≈ 400 beef dinners ≈ 150,000 forks

the completeness audit (Ch.40 §40.1)

twelve questions asked of the book, and question 12 — what is not in this book that ought to be? — must be asked by somebody else

compostable is a property of an object PLUS a facility (Ch.35 §35.6)

does it exist, does the contractor use it, will the bins be clean enough. A contaminated load goes to landfill entire

the compression test (Ch.25 §25.4)

what would you do if each critical task ran 25% long? The output is a list of what you can act on and what you cannot

conditioning (Ch.17 §17.1)

stripping, cutting under water, and hydrating stems for 6–24 hours. Makes floral a four-day chain and is not compressible

the confirmation loop (Ch.24 §24.5a)

at −2 weeks, to every named participant: “is that still right, and is there anything else you thought you were doing?” The second half is the valuable one, because the first only tests what you already believe

connector (Ch.11 §11.7)

a guest who knows the couple and can introduce anyone. Strangers are placed against connectors, never beside each other

consultation (Ch.3 §3.2)

the 75-minute structured diagnostic that opens an engagement. Planner speaks ~15 min; service and price at minute 60

consumption bar (Ch.15 §15.1)

billed on what is poured. Unbounded without a written cap, and the invoice arrives three weeks later

the consumption model (Ch.15 §15.2)

drinkers × (2.0 in hour one + 1.0 per hour after), adjusted, +10%. Trade practice with no published evidence base; its virtue is that it decomposes

the contact sheet (Ch.26 §26.3)

sorted by arrival time, with the on-site person's name and a second number, because a mobile in a field with no signal is not a number

containment (Ch.28 §28.8)

the person · the audience · the logistics, which is the actual service · the couple's choice · then run the wedding · and do not perform sympathy

contingency (Ch.6 §6.5)

10%, off the top, before allocation, as its own visible line. Not a cushion — the expected cost of normal surprises

contracting to the couple (Ch.33 §33.2)

vendors contract with the clients, partner named as coordinator. When Ximena went silent, eleven signed agreements were the difference between a coordination problem and no wedding

contracting without recourse (Ch.33 §33.5)

assume you will not litigate. What protects you: money held back (20–30%) · specificity · photographs at milestones · and the partner's own referral relationships

conversion versus performance (Ch.38 §38.5)

four hundred likes from planners is performance; a post a coordinator screenshots is conversion. Social is a credibility channel, not an acquisition channel

the coordination finding (Ch.37 §37.5)

a $1,700 coordination is not a small job at a small price; it is a $5,053 asset sold for $1,700

coordinator (Ch.1 §1.4)

engaged 4–8 weeks out to execute a plan someone else built; sold as "month-of" or "day-of," the latter a misnomer

corkage (Ch.14 §14.7, Ch.15 §15.3, CS2)

a per-bottle fee for alcohol the caterer did not supply. Carried into Ch.15 · Also: a per-bottle fee on alcohol the caterer or venue did not supply. Does not engage where a separate licensed service pours — confirm in writing

the correspondence log and the decision record (Ch.39 §39.5a)

~40 entries and ~6 records per wedding. A decision without its reasoning is indistinguishable from an arbitrary one

cost driver (Ch.4 §4.5)

what makes an image expensive: volume, installation, scarcity, labor, or venue

the cost of an hour (Ch.36 §36.1)

(take-home + tax + fixed costs) ÷ (hours worked × billable ratio). You must bill $68 an hour to take home $30

cost per acquisition (Ch.38 §38.6)

with your own time costed. Instagram $4,080** · fair $1,773 · website $926 · **relationships $278 · past-client referrals $91, the only channel that improves with time

cost per dollar raised (Ch.32 §32.1)

total cost ÷ gross. A gala runs $0.35–0.65; major gifts $0.05–0.15. Compute it always, and report it with gross and net together

cost sets the floor, value sets the ceiling (Ch.37 §37.5a)

three couples buy convenience · their own capacity back · a way through. The test: at the end, would they say the fee was worth it?

the cost transfer (Ch.33 §33.7)

a destination wedding does not cost less; it costs the same and a different set of people pay. $1,700–3,900 and a week of leave per couple

coverage hours (Ch.23 §23.3)

buy them at the end of the day, not the start. The last hour produces the photographs people keep

CRI (Ch.18 §18.2)

colour rendering index. Above 90 is good, below 80 visibly poor. Ask for it on anything lighting a face or a plate

critical path (Ch.13 §13.4)

tent + flooring + furniture, summed against the access window. Five minutes, and it says whether the event can be built

the critical path (Ch.25 §25.4)

tasks with zero float. At most weddings it is six consecutive tasks across about four hours

cue (Ch.24 §24.6)

a thing to watch for and a thing to do. Externally triggered rather than internally tracked, which is why it survives somebody who has lost count

the cue sheet (Ch.18 §18.7)

lighting and sound decisions as times with owners. Almost everything memorable about event lighting is a cue, and almost every cue is unassigned

the cumulative F&B minimum (Ch.31 §31.3, CS2)

turns every saving into a trap. $48,859 of savings cost $84,400. Check every saving against every floor before proposing it

D

damage waiver (Ch.13 §13.6)

7–12% of a rental order. Covers accidental damage; usually not loss, theft, or misuse. Not insurance

the damage walk (Ch.30 §30.4)

ten minutes at 23:30 with the venue manager and a phone, photographing whether or not you think it was you, and a message that night with a timestamp

dance floor sizing (Ch.11 §11.3)

2–4 sq ft per dancing guest at 40–50% dancing. Err small

the dark day (Ch.34 §34.2)

a day inside the build with nothing on it. Worth more than an extra crew, and the first thing a client asks you to remove

the day-of assignment (Ch.24 §24.7)

one thing each · named out loud in front of the others, which is the mechanism · with a time · written and sent that night · and checked against that person's other jobs

day-of coordination (Ch.2 §2.3)

a pricing device, not a service. Running a day requires 25–45 hrs of prior work; a planner who does none of it is improvising

the day-of handoff (Ch.33 §33.3)

they win on anything physical, you win on anything about a person — and it is proposed as a question, because a handoff proposed and not agreed is not a handoff

dB(A) and the 6 dB rule (Ch.18 §18.6)

sound drops ~6 dB per doubling of distance outdoors. Why an open field carries and a walled courtyard does not

dead air (Ch.20 §20.2)

the signing. 5–10 minutes with a hundred people watching in silence, and the most under-planned block at any wedding

the decision deadline (Ch.28 §28.2)

set by the physical work, backward. Arithmetic, not preference, and different at every venue

the decision protocol (Ch.27 §27.5)

agreed at −8 weeks. A spending number, not a principle · change how, ask about what · one named person · and an agreement not to tell them about things they cannot fix

decision rights (Ch.2 §2.6)

who may approve a spend, and who may approve a change on the event day. Settled in writing when a third party is paying

decision-rights map (Ch.3 §3.4)

a one-page table of who pays, who decides, and who must be pleased, built in month one with confidence markers on guesses

declaration of intent (Ch.20 §20.3)

the legally required exchange. Self-written vows sit alongside it, not instead of it

decoration vs. design (Ch.16 §16.1)

a decorated room has objects added; a designed room has a few decisions that were repeated. Test: ask why any object is there and see whether the answer is the same thirty times

the defence (Ch.40 §40.4)

every significant decision in one sentence with a number and a chapter. Defend the decision, not the outcome — nothing going wrong is compatible with both

deferred revenue (Ch.36 §36.3)

deposits are money received and not yet earned. A planner who cannot say in ten seconds how much of their balance is theirs does not know whether they are solvent

degrade gracefully (Ch.28 §28.4b)

the ladder, including the floor column — the cheapest thing that still works. Planners resist writing it and that resistance is the point

delivery window (Ch.13 §13.6)

a four-hour window is cheaper and may cost more, because the downstream chain must plan from the latest arrival

dependency (Ch.13 §13.4)

what must finish before a task can start. Nothing on a floor that is not down; nothing on a table that is not linened

the dependency map (Ch.34 §34.2a)

forty minutes, drawn before the calendar. Finds the critical path, the choke point, and — crucially — what is NOT on the path, which is what can move

deposit vs. retainer (Ch.7 §7.3)

a first payment securing a date vs. a payment for reserved capacity. “Non-refundable” means what the contract says and its enforceability is jurisdiction-specific

design concept (Ch.16 §16.2)

one page: through-line, palette, materials, repeated element, light plan by hour, three focal points, what is absent, budget by surface

design subtraction (Ch.16 §16.4)

the discipline of cutting. Three ideas at full strength beat nine at a third. Run it with “if this were the only thing, would the day still feel like yours?”

destination attrition (Ch.33 §33.7)

~52% of invited against ~87% domestic — and the guests who cannot pay decline, which is not random and is reported as a scheduling problem

diagnostic questioning (Ch.3 §3.1)

asking rather than telling, as the only demonstration of competence available before any work is done

dietary law (Ch.21 §21.3)

Ch.14's safety category, because the requirement may be about preparation and supervision rather than ingredients. It eliminates caterers and venues rather than adding a line

dietary matrix (Ch.14 §14.3)

guest, table, requirement, category. Regenerated from the seating chart, not maintained alongside it. 8–14% of guests typical

the disclosure problem (Ch.29 §29.2)

guests do not report friction, and the ones with the most to report say the least. It is a wedding · nothing can be fixed · friction is attributed inward · and disclosure has a history

discount the scope, not the price (Ch.37 §37.10)

“at six thousand it would be the partial package” is the same money and a completely different message

distribution (distro) (Ch.13 §13.3)

the box and cable that get generator power where it is needed; frequently a separate line

the distribution matrix (Ch.25 §25.8)

nobody gets the whole timeline. The couple get twelve lines; each vendor gets their extract plus the three things around them

the dock/no-dock ratio (Ch.34 §34.4)

45–90 minutes at a dock, 2–4 hours on a tail-lift. The most under-estimated figure in the chapter, and the schedule impact beats the money

document conventions (Ch.39 §39.5)

one place · date first, version last · one current version with an immediate archive · the same tree every event

document design under stress (Ch.26 §26.5)

eleven rules. A5 · landscape · 11pt minimum · one hour per page · aligned columns · ★ on cues · tabs findable by feel · a rubber band, not a clip

doing versus leading (Ch.41 §41.3)

you stop being the best person on the job · your artefacts become the product · and you acquire a duty you did not have

the do-not-play list (Ch.22 §22.6)

for songs with a history, not songs they dislike. In writing, acknowledged, on the run sheet, re-sent at −1 week — and one item carries a reason

dwell time (Ch.16 §16.6)

minutes a surface is in view. Dominates everything, and it is a fact about the timeline rather than about design

E

the earnings arc (Ch.41 §41.6a)

year four is the volume peak and year eleven earns twice as much from nine events. The first four years together earn about what year eleven earns alone

the eight categories (Ch.21 §21.2)

timing · place · people · words · objects · preparation · food and drink · dress and purity (where photography lives). Asked in month one

the eight-step estimate (Ch.35 §35.1a)

boundary · guests · factors · food by cover · energy · freight · materials as one line · rank and stop. Guests and food are 80–95% and take twenty minutes

electrical load (Ch.13 §13.3)

the sum of every device's draw, plus 25% headroom. A 20-amp 120 V circuit gives 2,400 W nominal and 1,920 W usable at 80%

the eleven announcements (Ch.22 §22.3)

scripted on one page. Six contain a name and all six can be got wrong

the eleven friction points (Ch.29 §29.3)

finding it · parking · the walk in · arriving · waiting · the ceremony · the gap · the seat · eating · the evening · leaving. 1–4 and 11 take half the friction and none of the budget

the emergency page (Ch.26 §26.4)

one page, printed twice, and one other person knows where it is. The least likely page to be used and the worst one to be missing

the employee's estimate (Ch.36 CS2)

an employee sees the delivery and not the business around it, and the invisible part is frequently the same size

the envelope rule (Ch.19 §19.4)

who is invited is determined by the envelope. Name every person; never “the family.” Address from the guest list, not from an address book

escalation path (Ch.3 §3.7)

the named channel for genuine urgency. Mostly unused; works because it exists

the escalation tree (Ch.26 §26.3)

finished when every branch ends somewhere. One branch has no hierarchy: a seriously unwell guest means emergency services, immediately

escort card / seating display / place card (Ch.19 §19.5)

three objects, three jobs. A place card is needed only if seats are assigned, not just tables

estimate / contracted / paid (Ch.6 §6.6)

three of the four budget columns. The estimate is the decision you made and is never overwritten

the ethical line on value pricing (Ch.37 §37.5a)

you may only price against a value the client has stated out loud. A value you inferred and did not check is a story you told yourself

event cancellation insurance (Ch.9 §9.2)

client-side coverage for financial loss when an event cannot proceed. Named perils; foreseeable perils excluded

event designer (Ch.1 §1.4, Ch.1 §1.4, revisited Ch.16 §16.8)

owns the visual concept and specifies everything realizing it; a separate role from planner at the top of the market only · Also: a separate role at the top of the market only. Below ~$60,000 the planner is the designer, and the job is consistency rather than flair

event liability (Ch.9 §9.2)

the other half of “wedding insurance”: general liability for the client. Frequently confused with cancellation cover

events industry (Ch.1 §1.1)

the economy of temporary coordinated experiences: weddings, corporate meetings, conferences, galas, social events, festivals

the exception line (Ch.26 §26.1)

“if not — [what], [who].” Every critical-path line, every single point of failure, and every line whose failure is silent

exclusivity clause (Ch.8 §8.5)

a venue requirement to use their caterer, bar, or rentals, or a fee to bring an outside vendor

the exit sentence (Ch.20 §20.8)

“follow them out, from the front, drinks are on the lawn.” 12–18 minutes becomes 6–8

the explainer (Ch.21 §21.4)

the programme paragraph describing a rite. Written or checked by somebody from the tradition, never by the planner

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failure injection (Ch.40 §40.3)

a plan is not tested by reading it. Pick one thing · remove it at a specific time · trace forward without solving · find where it becomes irreversible · then solve · and note whether the book answered it or you did

the failure question (Ch.12 §12.4)

“tell me about a time something went wrong — what did they do?” The only thing a portfolio cannot show

family style (Ch.14 §14.1)

platters to the table, guests serve themselves. Roughly a quarter of plated's duration because the unit of service changes

family system (Ch.3 §3.4)

the interdependent set of people connected to a wedding by money, history, obligation, and love. The planner's actual client

the family-photo matrix (Ch.23 §23.4)

2–4 minutes per combination, almost all of it finding people. Cap at twelve in month six; largest first; grandparents in the first three; nobody comes back

F&B minimum (Ch.8 §8.5)

a minimum spend, not a price. Usually exclusive of service charge and tax, which is a five-figure surprise

the fear beneath the question (Ch.3 §3.6)

the anxiety a client's literal question is a proxy for. Answer the literal question first, then name the fear, then give a dated next step

feeling-word (Ch.4 §4.1)

an adjective a client uses to describe a desired experience. Not a specification; has no fixed referent

final cluster (Ch.7 §7.2)

the last six weeks, typically 40–59% of budget. Emergent from independent vendor risk decisions, not designed

the finding log (Ch.30 §30.8)

subject, mechanism, number. Not a feeling with a verb attached. If under a third are about your own process, you are not looking at the right things

the first hire (Ch.41 §41.3)

a decision to stop doing part of the job. Most planners' instinct is a second planner; most planners' answer is part-time admin

the first look (Ch.23 §23.4a)

a pre-ceremony meeting, photographed. Buys 45–70 minutes of cocktail hour; costs an earlier, longer morning. Offer both halves neutrally

the first ten clients (Ch.36 §36.7a)

4–6 from people who know you · 2–4 from vendor referrals · ~0 from advertising. Spend year one on venues, not on a website

the five collisions (Ch.23 §23.6)

golden hour vs. dinner · family photos vs. cocktail hour · portraits vs. the dance floor's first twenty minutes · video's light vs. the room's · photography vs. a religious restriction

the five fields (Ch.26 §26.1)

time · a verb · a name, not a role · a cue · an exception. The fifth is the one nobody includes

the five jobs of light (Ch.18 §18.1)

ambient, accent, feature, practical, effect. Jobs 1, 2, and 4 make a room look intentional; job 5 alone looks like a school disco — and job 5 is what the DJ brings

the five load-out categories (Ch.30 §30.2)

rented · the vendors' · consumed · the couple's · the venue's. Category four produces every genuine loss

the five moves (Ch.21 §21.6)

establish the real requirement · find the fourth structure · price the options · give the smaller version its own dignity · ask the person nobody has asked

the five questions (Ch.35 §35.6)

compared to what · who verified it · what share of your total · what happens afterwards · can you show me the number

the five things nobody tells you (Ch.27 §27.2a)

a vendor quietly behind · an uncomfortable guest · somebody outside · the room's energy dropping · a family member who is upset. All found by looking

the five variables (Ch.16 §16.3)

light, repetition, scale, texture, colour, ranked by impact per dollar and in exactly the reverse of the order couples arrive in

the five-injection set (Ch.40 §40.3)

a category-B vendor · a condition at the deadline · a category-D vendor · a person · and you

the five-year plan (Ch.41 §41.8)

destination · ceiling · second line · money · cover · what is not the job · what would make you stop

fixed cost (Ch.5 §5.2)

indifferent to guest count: photography, music, venue site fee, officiant, attire, ceremony floral, the planner

the fixed hour (Ch.21 §21.3)

a ceremony that cannot begin before or after a stated moment. An input to the timeline, not a decision, and it reorganises the whole event

the fixed points (Ch.11 §11.3)

dance floor, band, bar, service entry, buffet. Placed before any table

flat fee (Ch.1 §1.5)

a fixed planner fee for a defined scope; client-fair, puts all scope risk on the planner

the flat-fee bet (Ch.37 §37.3)

events almost never take less time than expected, so price at the 75th percentile of your tracked hours, not the median

the flip (Ch.13 §13.4)

moving ceremony chairs to the reception. A line item with named people and a duration, not a free alternative

float (Ch.25 §25.4, §25.6a)

time the structure already contains. Discoverable and free — and float built into the published plan stops being float and becomes a later start

the floor and the constraint (Ch.36 §36.1)

the market price is a constraint; your cost of an hour is a floor. If the floor is above the constraint, it is a positioning problem, not a pricing problem

focal / secondary / filler / foliage (Ch.17 §17.4)

the four structural roles. Filler is a role, not cheap flowers. Foliage is the cheapest material by volume and is what makes anything look full

the food levers (Ch.35 §35.4)

the protein · how much is prepared · the surplus · everything else. “Local” is over-credited: transport is typically under 10% of a food item's footprint

the footprint ranking (Ch.35 §35.1)

guest travel 50–90% · food 5–30% · everything else under 5% combined. The visible choices and the significant choices are almost entirely different sets

force majeure (Ch.8 §8.4)

events beyond reasonable control excusing performance. Must name specific categories, say what happens to the money, and require reschedule before termination

forced ranking (Ch.4 §4.4)

protect three of twelve categories, order them, and name the one you are most relaxed about. Converts later negotiations into notifications

the four causes of an empty floor (Ch.22 §22.7)

no permission · the wrong minute · nowhere to put a drink · the music, which is fourth. Plus a structural fifth: the floor is in the wrong place (Ch.11)

the four components (Ch.17 §17.1, Ch.39 §39.2)

product 25–35%, hardgoods 8–15%, labour 35–45%, overhead and margin 15–25%. A floral quote is a labour quote with flowers in it · Also: artefacts · triggers · conventions · a closing loop. None of them is software; a platform without the four is an empty container with a subscription

the four costs (Ch.41 §41.5)

Saturdays · attention · the body · emotional labour, and three of them are invisible. Sixteen Saturdays a year for eleven years is 176

the four demands (Ch.23 §23.1)

getting ready · portraits · family photographs · golden hour. Every one takes hours from something else

the four dietary handoffs (Ch.29 §29.4)

guest→planner · planner→caterer · caterer→kitchen · kitchen→guest, which is the one that fails. Hand-delivered by name, not left on the table

the four DIY conditions (Ch.17 §17.3)

cold space, buckets and drainage, named confirmed bodies, and one person who has done it before. Missing any one, price the studio

the four eating moments (Ch.14 §14.2)

cocktail hour, dinner, dessert, late night. Cocktail hour is under-catered (5–7 pieces/guest); dessert is bought twice

the four inclusion questions (Ch.21 §21.4a)

who may be in the party · who may enter a space · who may participate in an element · what a guest from the other family is expected to do

the four jobs (rehearsal) (Ch.24 §24.2)

put people in space · run the tests · assign day-of roles by name · reduce anxiety. The walking is a third of the time and the only job anybody expects

the four music problems (Ch.22 §22.1)

ceremony · cocktail hour · dinner, which is the hardest · dancing. Four jobs, four volumes, and most weddings brief them as one

the four objective types (Ch.31 §31.1)

capability · alignment · relationship · recognition. Most events have two and pretend to have one, and almost all are budgeted as though they were recognition

the four sourcing routes (Ch.17 §17.3)

full-service, à la carte, grower-direct DIY, wholesale DIY. DIY saves ~$75–$90 per hour of unpaid labour

the four tests (Ch.24 §24.5)

the four-minute test · the readings aloud and timed · the walk-through of everything that is not the aisle · the reverse run. None of them involves walking

the four things an asking must do (Ch.29 §29.5)

state the facts · offer a specific solution so saying yes is small · a private channel to a person · and never ask anybody to describe themselves

the four times of day (Ch.16 §16.6a)

daylight, golden hour, dark, dancing. Designs fail at dark, during dinner — the longest sustained period of design scrutiny at a wedding and the hour least often tested

the four-bucket sort (Ch.5 CS1)

sorting names into client-defined categories before any cut is on the table. Sorting is painless; cutting from a sorted list is mechanical

the four-minute test (Ch.18 §18.5, CS1)

the actual couple, in the actual spot, speaking as quietly as they actually will, heard from the back row. Needs no equipment: it tests geometry, and the PA can only fix what the geometry leaves

the four-part allergen protocol (Ch.14 §14.3)

chef knows by name and table / plate marked and hand-delivered / someone confirms at the table / auto-injector located. The planner does not assess severity

the fourth structure (Ch.21 §21.4)

two acts, differently weighted. Found by asking “what does each family need to have happened by the end of this weekend?” rather than “how do we combine these?”

the fragile hour (Ch.25 §25.4)

the hours where float is zero. A planner's attention should be concentrated there, and usually is not. The question is never how late somebody is — it is what the next thing is waiting for

frame tent / pole tent (Ch.13 §13.2)

clear-span self-supporting vs. centre-pole. Frame tents dominate weddings because poles are a layout problem

full-service planner (Ch.1 §1.4)

engaged 6–18 months out, accountable for budget, vendors, logistics, timeline, design coordination, and execution

full-service planning (Ch.2 §2.1)

engaged 9–18 months out, accountable for discovery, budget, all vendors, design, logistics, timeline, execution, wrap-up. 150–250 hrs

fully variable cost (Ch.5 §5.2)

a cost that moves with every single guest: food, bar, place setting, chair, favor, cake slice

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the gala as major-gift pipeline (Ch.32 §32.2)

it raises money least efficiently of the five things it does. Which changes the design: who is in the room beats how many

a gap and then a collision (Ch.40 §40.3)

a good injection finds a gap and then finds that the obvious fix collides with something else, which a review never surfaces

the gap conversation (Ch.6 §6.7)

telling a client their budget does not support their wedding. Promise, number, silence, structural cause, three costed paths, real deadline

general liability (Ch.9 §9.2)

bodily injury and property damage to third parties. Venues commonly require $1M per occurrence / $2M aggregate

generator sizing (Ch.13 §13.3)

total load + headroom ÷ 1,000 = kW. A caterer's propane-vs-electric choice is a generator-sizing decision

the gentle signal (Ch.18 §18.7)

house lighting up ~20% ten minutes before a curfew. A social instrument, not a technical one

the getting-ready window (Ch.23 §23.6a)

a window with the curtains open, six feet of space, one clear corner, 60–90 min. And hair and makeup run late structurally, not accidentally

going first (Ch.30 §30.8)

name four of your own errors before the money. Establishes the room · makes it safe · shows them what a finding looks like · and removes the fear of hurting you

golden hour (Ch.23 §23.5)

the 40 minutes before sunset; 15–20 usable. Immovable, and almost always during dinner. Scheduled in month six

gratuity (Ch.6 §6.4)

what actually reaches staff. 15–20% of F&B where the service charge is not distributed

the gratuity schedule (Ch.30 §30.5)

prepared in advance in named envelopes by the couple, handed out by somebody who is not the couple. And the question that beats every number: does the service charge reach staff?

guaranteed count (Ch.5 §5.8, Ch.14 §14.5)

the contractually binding number due 10–14 days out. Set at confirmed yes + 2–3%; a floor, not a ceiling · Also: the number you pay for whether or not they come. Confirmed yes + 2–3%. A floor, not a ceiling

guest count (Ch.5 §5.1)

the number of people attending. The master variable: ~62% of a typical budget is a function of it

guest flow (Ch.11 §11.4)

entrance to table, bar, restroom, floor. Cocktail-to-dinner through one door: 12–18 minutes for 150

the guest walk (Ch.29 §29.3)

forty minutes, in order, at guest pace, from the car park, carrying nothing, twice (site visit and rehearsal) and once after dark. Record hesitations, not solutions

the guest's event (Ch.29 §29.1)

begins in the car park and ends in the car park. The two moments that bookend everything are the two planned least

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the handoff (Ch.27 §27.8a)

four-minute, one-hour, and whole-day. The one-hour sentence: how long · the next thing and who owns it · what waits · and the one thing that does not

a hard anchor (Ch.25 §25.2)

a time that cannot move. Test: what happens if it moves twenty minutes? A cost is soft; a breach, an impossibility, or an absent person is hard

head table / sweetheart table (Ch.11 §11.5)

where the couple sits. Where speeches happen matters more than where the couple sits

the hidden buffer (Ch.25 §25.6)

a buffer people know about is not a buffer, because a stated end is what people work to. Publish the earlier time, hold the later, and tell the one person delivering the thing

hospitality versus decoration (Ch.29 §29.8)

an argument about the marginal dollar, not against beauty — and the honest complication is that the couple see the flowers forever and cannot see the six chairs

the host line (Ch.19 §19.3a)

the invitation's first line. “Together with their families” removes an ordering decision, a payment audit, and a list. For divorced parents both hosting: two lines, mother first, and the absence of “and” is the entire content

host liquor liability (Ch.9 §9.2)

coverage where alcohol is furnished but not sold; sometimes an extension or add-on

hosted (open) bar (Ch.15 §15.1)

everything free to guests. A statement about generosity, not about pricing structure

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the incident note (Ch.28 §28.9)

that night, factual, no blame. Insurance may follow, a conversation certainly will, and you will misremember

inclusions / exclusions (Ch.2 §2.6)

what you will and will not do, stated in countable terms. Adjectives are not scope

incoherence (Ch.16 §16.7)

five symptoms with five specific repairs. Not bad taste; good decisions with no relationship to each other

indemnification (Ch.8 §8.2)

allocation of third-party claims. Ask for two changes in one sentence: mutuality, and fault-based rather than proximity-based language

infrastructure load (Ch.10 §10.2)

the total of what a site does not provide and must therefore be brought in

the inherited agenda (Ch.31 §31.4)

last year's with the dates changed. Built by asking senior people how long they wanted on stage, so it encodes the org chart rather than the objective

inspiration board (Ch.4 §4.5)

a client's collected images. Evidence of response, never a shopping list; typically prices at 2–4× budget

the invisible majority (Ch.29 §29.2a)

of a hundred guests, 15–20 have some hearing loss and 0–2 use a wheelchair. A certified-accessible venue can still fail fifteen people

the invisible planner (Ch.27 §27.8)

and four times you must not be: authority, safety, the couple seeing you once, and moving the room

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à la carte services (Ch.2 §2.7)

unbundled deliverables (timeline-only, floor-plan-only, sourcing-only, consulting blocks) that consume hours but not Saturdays

last call (Ch.15 §15.8)

announced quietly to the people nearest the bar, never on the microphone. An announcement produces a stampede

late is not absent (Ch.28 §28.4a)

an unanswered phone at T−90 is treated as absent and the response is started, because starting is reversible and waiting is not

the lead gift (Ch.32 §32.5)

pre-committed, secured weeks out, because nobody wants to be first to give $25,000 publicly. Without one the whole ladder runs one rung low and the loss compounds

legal versus symbolic (Ch.33 §33.4)

marry legally at home; hold the ceremony you want at the destination. The reframe: the paperwork is got out of the way so the ceremony can be about what it is about

length asymmetry (vows) (Ch.20 §20.2a)

one partner writes 90 seconds and the other four minutes. Comparative, public, and unrecoverable. Agree a number in month six

the lighting package (Ch.18 §18.8a)

a quantity of fixtures with a delivery attached. Does not include focus, control, an operator, cues, bases, or anyone on site when it is dark

the lighting plot (Ch.18 §18.3)

eight items. Circuit assignment and load per circuit are what make it a plot rather than a picture, and they are the two most often missing

limitation of liability (Ch.8 §8.2)

a cap. Ask for the Contract Price, never amounts actually received. Read together with the remedy clause, always

limited bar (Ch.15 §15.1)

beer, wine, and one or two batched cocktails, hosted. The right answer most of the time

liquor liability (Ch.9 §9.2)

a separate coverage, frequently excluded from general liability. Carried by whoever sells or serves

list architecture (Ch.5 §5.4)

five attributes per name: household, owner, tier, category, travel

the loaded rate (Ch.6 §6.4)

the true all-in per-guest cost. P × [(1+s+a)(1+t)+g]. Multipliers 1.25–1.60×. Never budget a menu price

load-in sequence (Ch.13 §13.4)

a dependency graph with a deadline, not a time-ordered list. A list always looks plausible

the load-out (Ch.30 §30.1)

planned with the load-in or not planned. The same problem in reverse, with a deadline and exhausted people. The handback time decides everything else

the local partner (Ch.33 §33.2)

Ch.28's category D, alone, with no substitute. You vet one person instead of eight, and their vendor relationships are the asset you are buying

the logistics email (Ch.19 §19.6)

sent at −10 days to everyone attending. Free, twenty minutes, and the only communication written after the plan is finished

loss tolerance (Ch.37 §37.8)

1 − 1 ÷ (1 + rise). +30% survives losing 23.1% — and “break even” understates it badly

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making invisible work visible (Ch.38 §38.9)

captions · naming the work at the debrief · a niche · specific reviews. And do not manufacture visible crises

marginal guest (Ch.5 §5.3)

what the next guest actually costs. Between steps ~$160; crossing a bracket, $1,300+

the market map (Ch.38 §38.1a)

every venue · the person actually asked, who is rarely the manager · the photographers · the caterers · busier planners — plus the next specific action and when

market price (Ch.17 §17.2)

the price on the day the stems are bought, 10–14 days out. A floral quote is a forecast; a 15–30% swing in a variety is normal and absence is possible

marketing capacity / permitted occupancy / working capacity (Ch.10 CS1)

three different numbers. The website's, the fire marshal's, and the one you calculate. Only the third plans a wedding

marks (Ch.24 §24.4)

physical positions, taped or otherwise fixed. “Stand on this” survives the night; “about here, next to Elena” is not an instruction

marshalling (Ch.34 §34.4)

the scheduling of vehicles, not deliveries. Every vehicle, a real window, an off-site holding point, one named releaser, and how does it get out?

mechanics (Ch.17 §17.4, §17.6)

how the thing holds together: foam, chicken wire, frogs, water tubes, dry wire

the messenger rule (Ch.21 §21.6)

never carry a family's decision to a family member. “I'll help you work out what to say and I'll sit with you while you say it — but it has to come from you”

minimum call / turnaround / the meal rule (Ch.34 §34.3)

a ninety-minute job costs four hours, so batching beats shortening · 8–10 hours between calls · and the meal is a fixed point: it is an obligation and the rig is a preference

month-of coordination (Ch.2 §2.1)

engaged 6–10 weeks out to execute an existing plan: read contracts, rebuild timeline, confirm vendors, run rehearsal and day. 35–60 hrs

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the named decider (Ch.28 §28.3)

one person, agreed in month six, and it should not be the couple. The authority is real and revocable: “ring me in the next ten minutes”

named insured (Ch.9 §9.3)

the entity the policy covers. Must match the contracting party character for character

name-matched RSVP (Ch.19 §19.4)

a form where a guest enters their name and sees exactly the seats they were given. Standard on every platform and almost nobody turns it on

naming the three objections (Ch.38 §38.7)

“is it the money, the scope, or whether I'm the right fit?” Makes an honest answer easier than a polite one. One follow-up, then stop

never quote in the room (Ch.37 §37.7a)

a number quoted under social pressure by somebody who wants to be liked is almost always low. One to three days, and the fee last in the proposal

the niche test (Ch.36 §36.6)

can somebody who met you once describe you accurately, in one sentence, three months later? Sources: what you have done · a community you belong to · a competence most planners lack — the most under-used

no PO, no payment (Ch.31 §31.8)

work performed before a purchase order may not be payable regardless of what was agreed verbally, and terms run from invoice, not from work

nobody improvises authority on a rigging deck (Ch.34 §34.5a)

“everybody is responsible for safety” means nobody stops anything. One named person, assigned out loud at the induction

noise condition (Ch.18 §18.6)

a licensing or planning limit at a boundary. A separate instrument from the venue contract; a venue can be contractually compliant and in breach of its own licence at once

the non-Saturday corollary (Ch.37 §37.5)

work that does not consume a Saturday is worth taking at a lower effective rate, which is why corporate work is undervalued by solo planners

the “not this” section (Ch.16 §16.5)

three to five near-misses annotated with why. Positive examples define a region; negative examples define its edge

the notice ranking (Ch.29 §29.8)

fed · heard · comfortable · spoken to · the couple's happiness. And almost nobody notices linen, napkin folds, or most of a mood board

the notice test (Ch.27 §27.2)

the first triage question, and it eliminates most of what reaches a planner. If it is satisfying to do, check whether it is worth doing

not-in-the-sightline (Ch.11 §11.7)

the standard for separating estranged guests. “Not adjacent” is insufficient

nucleus (Ch.11 §11.7)

the two to four people at a table who know and enjoy each other and carry it

a number taken while the thing still exists is a fact (Ch.30 §30.2)

the bar counted at 22:15 with the bar open. Afterwards it is a recollection

the number you must ask for (Ch.31 §31.3)

the hotel's actual pickup for the last three years on groups your size. They have it and never offer it

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an object is not a plan (Ch.22 CS1)

a playlist, a spare bulb, a first-aid kit. Ch.27's rule extended from actions to things

occupancy load (Ch.9 §9.6)

the fire-code maximum for a space, set by square footage, use type, and exits. Not the venue's stated capacity, and it changes with layout

the October drop (Ch.41 §41.4)

not exhaustion. The sudden absence of the thing that has organised your attention for four months, arriving with nothing scheduled in its place. Book something for the second week of October

offsetting is not a reduction (Ch.35 §35.9)

reduce first, report the residual, and say what you bought, from whom, verified by whom

onboarding (Ch.3 §3.8)

the six things delivered in the first two weeks, ending with one real deliverable inside seven days

one-day / temporary event permit (Ch.15 §15.5)

required where nobody holds a licence. Lead time 15–60 days; start at −90

the overage conversation (Ch.7 §7.6)

a cost above plan. Under $1,000 and inside contingency: email. Over that: call. Option three is always the guest list

overage (rental) (Ch.13 §13.1)

+10% on china and flatware, +15% on napkins, +4 on chairs

the overnight reset (Ch.34 §34.9)

a multi-day event is an event plus a reset, and the reset is unscheduled. Fresh crew, a stores list, AV reset AND tested, and one person walking the room with tomorrow's schedule

overset (Ch.14 §14.5)

places laid above the guarantee, typically 3–5%. Free insurance the caterer provides and rarely mentions

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package bar (Ch.15 §15.1)

flat per head per hour. The only model with a known ceiling; the safe default absent a forecast

the paddle raise (Ch.32 §32.5)

twelve minutes and a quarter of the night. A descending ladder · a specific need with a unit · spotters · a recorder · a close that never trails off · and a lead gift

parallel / sequential / fused (Ch.21 §21.4)

the three blended-ceremony structures. Fused is the one couples want and the one that most often cannot be done as imagined

the parents' brief (Ch.24 §24.7a)

a separate document. The underlying question is “is everything all right, and does anybody need me?” — and at a wedding with a divorce, saying nothing is not neutral

partial planning (Ch.2 §2.1)

engaged 4–9 months out with venue and some vendors booked. A description of the client's progress, not of the planner's work; must be scoped by deliverable. 80–140 hrs

pass-through payment (Ch.7 §7.3)

client money moving through the planner's account. Default is never; if unavoidable, separate account, written agreement, professional advice first

the payer / the decider / the pleased (Ch.3 §3.4)

the three roles in a wedding's stakeholder system, frequently held by three different people

payment calendar (Ch.7 §7.2)

every vendor payment sorted by date and totalled monthly. Answers whether a wedding is survivable, which the budget cannot

the payment structure (Ch.36 §36.5a)

a named retainer · dates not milestones · final payment before the event · a stated late consequence · and automatic reminders, which do most of the work

the PEOPLE section (Ch.23 CS2)

a shot-list heading that is not combinations. Produced by the chapter's highest-return sentence: “is there anybody you'd want a photograph of, *who isn't in a combination?”*

percentage exposure (Ch.37 §37.2)

a budget falling $60,000 → $38,000 costs $3,300 for the same job, or a harder one. Use a floor and a defined base

percentage-of-budget fee (Ch.1 §1.5)

typically 10–20% of event spend; scales with the job, creates a visible upselling incentive

per-client overhead (Ch.36 §36.8a)

12–18 unbillable hours per client regardless of fee. Your billable ratio is a function of how many clients you have, not how much work you do

permission (Ch.22 §22.7)

a hundred people take it from two. Open the floor during the first dance and keep the couple on it for one more song

per-occurrence / aggregate limits (Ch.9 §9.2)

the most paid for one incident vs. across the policy period. Prior claims consume the aggregate and the certificate does not show it

the person-hours argument (Ch.31 §31.4)

attendees × days × 8, × a loaded rate. The largest cost of a corporate event is the attendees' time and it is never in the budget. An hour on stage for 400 costs $34,000

the perverse incentive (Ch.37 §37.2)

every recommendation that raises spend raises your fee, and both of you know it. It does not make planners dishonest; it makes the advice harder to trust

plateau (Ch.5 CS2)

a guest range just below a step cluster; the cheapest place to sit

the platform question nobody asks (Ch.39 §39.4)

what does it not do that I will therefore stop doing? — plus a parallel real event before deciding

the playlist trap (Ch.22 §22.5)

a fixed list is a list of songs the couple like, and it removes the one thing a DJ is for. Reclassify into must-play, do-not-play, and guidance

the plus-one policy (Ch.5 §5.5)

a consistently applied rule about partners. Any policy applied consistently is defensible; none applied inconsistently is

the pocket card (Ch.26 §26.5)

A6, one side, eight times and four numbers. What actually gets looked at

point of contact (Ch.2 §2.6)

the one named person the planner communicates with. Not the mother, not the maid of honor, not the group chat

the point of no return (Ch.28 §28.2)

a time, not a judgment. Decide at the deadline, bias toward the reversible option, and if it is 50/50 go indoors — the asymmetry is the decision

portfolio consistency (Ch.12 §12.4)

reading a vendor's work for the floor rather than the ceiling: a full gallery from a recent event at your venue type, guest count, and season

the portfolio problem (Ch.38 §38.3)

tablescapes are a florist's portfolio. What sells is a caption that describes a decision

the portrait session (Ch.23 §23.4a)

20 min minimum, 30–45 comfortable, and nobody watching. Good photographers spend the first three minutes not photographing

position (Ch.27 §27.6)

where the planner physically stands, hour by hour. Two hours are non-negotiable, and at a ceremony it is the side, not the back — you can still reach the exit and you can see faces

the positioning statement (Ch.36 §36.6)

“I plan [what] for [whom] who [have this problem], and what they get is [this outcome].”

the post-crisis conversation (Ch.28 §28.9)

at the debrief. Do not lead with an apology if you did nothing wrong, and do not defend a decision that was wrong

postponement clause (Ch.8 §8.4)

the event happens on another date. Most often absent. Critical question: what if the vendor is not available on the new date?

practical (lighting) (Ch.18 §18.1)

light that must exist for safety or function: path, bar, kitchen, restrooms. The job whose absence is Ch.9's liability chain

the praise problem (Ch.30 §30.8)

a debrief that produces only praise has failed. Grateful · nothing can be fixed · attributed inward · and they do not know what was supposed to happen

preferred vendor list (Ch.1 §1.5)

a venue's list of vendors it trusts and requires or recommends; may be quality control or a venue revenue stream

the pricing-power ordering (Ch.37 §37.9a)

you do not raise prices because you are busy; you become busy at a higher price because you raised them and declined the difference

primary and non-contributory (Ch.9 §9.4)

language making one policy respond first without contribution from another's

print lead time (Ch.19 §19.2)

2–4 weeks digital, 4–8 letterpress or foil. Choose the print method before the design, because it determines the calendar

the production book (Ch.26 §26.2)

ten sections, tabbed, in order, and nothing else goes in. Contracts, budget, and correspondence stay in the car

production hours (Ch.2 §2.2)

the total planner-hours an engagement consumes, of which the event day is roughly 8%

the production schedule (Ch.34 §34.2)

five phases: load-in · build · tech and rehearsal · show · load-out. Its unit is a crew, a truck, and an hour of access, and it has a space column

professional liability (E&O) (Ch.9 §9.2)

financial loss from a professional error. Does not cover bodily injury; a planner needs both this and GL

profitable and insolvent (Ch.36 §36.5)

the worked year makes $4,200 and is $5,200 down in June, and that is a normal seasonal event business. Four defences plus a fifth: have the client pay vendors directly

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qualify before you meet (Ch.38 §38.7)

three lines ends a third of enquiries before anybody spends an hour

questions whose answers cannot be yes (Ch.33 §33.3a)

not “is that possible?” but “what would have to happen for that to work?” — good practice everywhere, load-bearing at distance

the quiet space (Ch.29 §29.4)

one room, normally lit, music audible but not loud. Serves a dozen needs, belongs to none of them, costs nothing, and almost nobody provides it

R

the rain plan, five parts (Ch.28 §28.2)

the alternative specified · the decision deadline · the named decider · the evidence · and the crew, which is always the missing one

the rate rises as the tier falls (Ch.37 §37.6)

every tier carries the same per-client overhead against fewer billable hours, so a coordination priced at the full-planning hourly rate loses money

the ratio is not a verdict (Ch.32 §32.1)

it is a demand for an argument. Donor acquisition runs at $1.00–1.50 and is correct, because fundraising is a portfolio

raw site (Ch.1 §1.3)

a venue providing ground and little else; costs more all-in than its site fee implies

the raw-site ice figure (Ch.15 CS2)

4 lb per guest, not 2.5, because everything that must be cold must be made cold with ice. Two deliveries, four hours apart

reading for absence (Ch.8 §8.3)

reviewing against a checklist rather than on the document's own terms, because absence has nothing to look at

reading the room (Ch.22 §22.8)

a DJ reads the floor; a planner reads the room. The tables, the edges, the bar, outside, and the people who left — none of which is visible from a booth

the read-through (Ch.26 §26.6b)

the whole book, out loud, alone, at −3 days. Reading silently, the eye completes what it expects

the real hurricane risk (Ch.33 §33.8)

it does not rain on your wedding; it closes an airport for three days. Insure early — named-storm exclusions bite once a storm is named

reciprocity of the network (Ch.12 §12.2)

the informal, slow, universally tracked exchange that vendor recommendations run on

the reciprocity trap (Ch.5 §5.5)

inviting someone because they invited you. Dissolved by asking “would you feel their absence?”

the recommenders (Ch.38 §38.1)

you are not marketing to couples. Venue coordinators · photographers · caterers · florists · past clients · other planners. A couple hires once; a coordinator recommends thirty times a year

the recovery brunch (Ch.33 §33.6)

drop-in, no speeches, no schedule. The cheapest event of the four days and the one guests talk about

re-derivation (Ch.25 §25.9)

before issuing, re-derive every duration from its current source, not from the last timeline. Ch.20's expiring-estimate rule, made procedural

redline (Ch.8 §8.7)

proposed changes to a contract. Two asks normal, four a lot, nine a reputation. Propose the wording; never send the client

reference questions (Ch.12 §12.4)

the four: better than expected · what did you have to manage · the failure question · would you use them again and what would you change

the referral (Ch.30 §30.9)

produced during the work and collected by the wrap-up, not requested. Said once, lightly, at the end, and never mentioned again

referring out (Ch.38 §38.2a)

a referral given is worth more than one asked for, and it costs an enquiry you were not going to take. Competitors are the second-best referral source and require no marketing

reforecast (Ch.7 §7.8)

30 minutes at month six and month nine updating estimates to reality and re-reading the total against contingency

refusal authority (Ch.15 §15.5, §15.6)

the named person entitled to decline service. Not the planner; never a family member. The fifth alcohol question, and the one nobody asks

the rehearsal script (Ch.24 §24.3)

forty-five minutes, written, with a stated end time, which is what stops it running to seventy

remedy for non-performance (Ch.8 §8.2)

what the client gets if the vendor fails. The most valuable clause and the most frequently absent

rental order (Ch.13 §13.1)

built from three inputs: the floor plan, the guest count, and the caterer's exclusions list

repetition (Ch.16 §16.3)

one element in five places reads as intention; five elements once each reads as accumulation, and usually costs more

replaceable on a task (Ch.39 §39.9)

systematise sequencing, arithmetic, remembering, checking, anything with a right answer. You cannot systematise knowing which rule to break

report diversion as diversion (Ch.35 §35.5)

89.6% diverted is real and is ~0.13% of the carbon. Calling it a carbon achievement is the error

repurposing (Ch.17 §17.6)

moving ceremony floral to the reception. Four conditions: a window, a named person, an object built to move, and a second position that wants the same object

requirement / custom / preference (Ch.21 §21.2)

and the asymmetry: treating a custom as a requirement is rigid and recoverable; treating a requirement as a custom produces a ceremony that did not happen. Default to requirement

the reset (Ch.27 §27.7)

twice, four minutes, sitting down, with food. The difference between a planner who is sharp at ten and one running on adrenaline

the return (Ch.30 §30.6)

unspent money is the client's, returned deliberately and itemised. Nobody tells their friends their planner came in on budget

the reuse hierarchy (Ch.35 §35.5)

prevent · reuse · redistribute · recycle · compost · landfill. Most event sustainability starts at tier four and the money is in one to three

revealed preference (Ch.4 §4.6)

where the client's attention actually goes. Usually the correct signal

the reverse run (Ch.24 §24.5)

ask three people what happens immediately after their part. Ninety seconds, and it tests comprehension rather than compliance

reviews that travel (Ch.38 §38.8)

specificity. “Could you say what actually happened rather than that it was lovely?”

RFP (Ch.12 §12.5)

seven sections, sent to three vendors on the same day, identical. Includes the site's constraints and “please list what is not included”

the risk register (Ch.12 CS1)

a standing one-page list of open risks with triggers and owners, reviewed weekly alongside the budget tracker

the risk sheet (Ch.12 §12.6)

the third section of a proposal comparison: contract terms, insurance, balance dates, references, contract behaviour

Rite of Marriage outside Mass (Ch.21 CS2)

illustrative: a complete and valid Catholic marriage without a Mass, ~30 min. Not a shortened version but one of two forms — and the finding that removed a fourteen-month argument's premise

the room block, pickup, and attrition (Ch.31 §31.3)

you guarantee a number eight months before you can know it. Three moves: a lower threshold · damages at profit not rate · and a resell credit

the rotated officiant (Ch.20 §20.5a)

officiant a quarter turn aside, couple turned toward each other. The guests see two profiles instead of two backs

the run of show (Ch.31 §31.6)

Ch.26's run sheet, with a countdown in negative minutes and a producer whose only job is making the next thing happen at the right second

the run sheet (Ch.26 §26.1)

a timeline plus an owner column. A line with no name is immediately visible as a line that will not happen

runway (Ch.36 §36.8)

3–6 months of personal + business burn, less bookings already contracted and deposited — which is the most controllable variable in the section

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the Saturday problem (Ch.1 §1.6)

weddings cluster on ~30–34 desirable Saturdays a year, capping a solo planner at 10–18 full-service events annually

scope creep (Ch.2 §2.5)

the accumulation of individually reasonable requests into an unpriced second job. Arrives as nine small asks, never one large one

scope of service (Ch.2 §2.6)

the five-part document: inclusions (counted), exclusions (explicit), boundaries and terms, client responsibilities, change mechanism

scope of supply (Ch.12 §12.5)

precisely what a vendor is being asked to quote for, so three proposals cover the same ground

the seating chart as an access document (Ch.29 §29.6)

who can hear · who can get out · who is alone · who is walking · who needs the plate. 24-point, two copies, alphabetical, and a person standing next to it

the second column (Ch.39 §39.8)

found · artefact · owner · due · closed. The artefact field is load-bearing, and a log of unclosed findings is worse than no log

the second question (Ch.32 §32.2)

“if it netted the same but eight new six-figure prospects left the room, would that be a success?” The disagreement it produces is the actual problem

the second shooter (Ch.23 §23.2a)

$400–$900. Better value than two extra hours, and at a restricted ceremony frequently the only way to photograph two faces

the second-order failure (Ch.28 §28.4a)

what the crisis cost you that it was not about. Invisible, because nobody can see an absent action. Name what you are dropping, out loud, first

sensitive data (Ch.39 §39.7)

dietary requirements are health information; access lists are disability information. Collect the minimum · one controlled place · share only what a vendor needs · delete on a schedule · say what you do

sequence, do not direct (Ch.34 §34.8)

riggers, union labour, licensed contractors. A rigger saying no is the system functioning, and the response is to ask what would make it possible

service aisle (Ch.11 §11.4)

the route staff use to reach tables. Drawn before any table is placed

service charge (Ch.6 §6.4)

18–25% added to food and beverage. Usually the caterer's own revenue, not a gratuity. Ask in writing

service duration (Ch.14 §14.1)

tables ÷ servers × ~4 min = theoretical minutes per course; × 1.5–2.0 for realistic. The other figure nobody converts

service path (Ch.10 §10.4, Ch.11 §11.4)

the route from kitchen or staging to the farthest table. Drives service time and staffing · Also: kitchen or plating to every table, crossing neither the dance floor nor the guest path

service style (Ch.14 §14.1)

plated, family style, buffet, stations, heavy passed, grazing. A timeline decision wearing a menu's clothes

the service-level arithmetic (Ch.36 §36.8a)

26 coordinations carry 390 hours of overhead; 7 full plannings carry 105. The second business has 285 more hours to sell

the seven destinations (Ch.41 §41.1)

solo · small firm · agency · in-house · venue-side · supplier-side · adjacent. Three of the seven have no Saturdays, and almost nobody entering the field is told

the seven diagnostics (Ch.34 §34.1)

load-in over a day · more than three suppliers at one access point · crew larger than event staff · dependencies · a vehicle that cannot leave · overnight occupation · hiring labour. A 250-guest marquee wedding satisfies four

the seven-row report (Ch.32 §32.9)

and the twelve-month follow-up on first-time attendees is the only honest measure of cultivation, and almost nobody produces it

shorten, do not thin (Ch.17 CS2)

when material runs out, reduce the footprint rather than the density. Density reads as abundance; length reads as ambition. Transfers to lighting, signage, and canapés

the shortfall (Ch.7 §7.7)

a client who cannot pay. Different from an overage. Ask timing or change?, map non-refundable, move before cutting, never moralize

shoulder season (Ch.1 §1.6)

the months adjacent to peak wedding season, cheaper and more available

shrinkage (Ch.15 §15.2)

spillage, waste, and breakage. 8–12%. Add 10% to every forecast

sidewall (Ch.13 §13.2)

solid, windowed, or clear. Order as standby: delivered, installed only if needed

sightline (Ch.11 §11.5)

a guest's view of the couple and of the speeches. Centerpieces below 14″ or above 24″, never between

the silent pass (Ch.24 §24.4)

the second processional walk-through, run without instruction. If they can do it, they know it; if they cannot, you have found out

the silent-auction arithmetic (Ch.32 §32.6)

$61,000 from 1,100 hours = **$55.45/hr. It did not cost nothing; it cost $155,000 of sponsorship**

the simulated day (Ch.40 §40.6)

thirty-minute steps, three sealed injections, and the output is the marks — every answer that came from memory

the single source (Ch.26 §26.7)

derived documents are generated, not kept in step with. Never edit a derived document. The test is fifteen minutes

site fee (Ch.10 §10.2)

the headline venue charge. Moves in the opposite direction to all-in cost

the six actions (Ch.38 §38.2)

do the work well in front of them (70%, no substitute) · make their job easier · send photographs of their own venue · refer work to them · ask once directly · stay visible

the six commonalities (Ch.41 §41.6)

a stated ceiling · a second line that is not Saturdays · somebody who can cover you · a real off-season · money that is not anxiety · something that is not the job. Four are decisions; talent is not on the list

the six entry points (Ch.41 §41.1)

assisting · venue-side · supplier-side · in-house sideways · hospitality · cold. Five of the six are jobs, and the sixth is the one most books assume

the six silences (Ch.41 §41.8a)

age · loneliness · four hundred of other people's most significant days · the industry's silence about money, leaving, and the physical cost · comparison · and that being excellent is not protective

the six-decibel window (Ch.22 §22.1)

dinner's volume range. Every decision is invisible if it is right and unbearable if it is wrong

the sixty-second decision (Ch.27 §27.3)

name the constraint · generate two options · choose on the ranking · say it to a named person with a time and “tell me when it's done”

the smaller-closer problem (Ch.35 §35.9)

the most sustainable version of most events is a smaller one closer to home, and a planner's income scales the other way. Disclosed rather than resolved

the social-celebration inversion (Ch.32 §32.7a)

the subject is a child and the client is their parent. Ask the young person what they are dreading

solemnisation (Ch.20 §20.3)

the act that makes the marriage. Who may perform it is jurisdiction-specific and online ordination is not universally recognised

special event permit (Ch.9 §9.6)

municipal approval triggered by event size or property type. 30–90 days typical

specification (Ch.4 §4.1)

a checkable, purchasable statement a vendor can act on or disagree with

specified by role (Ch.17 CS2)

briefing material by function rather than species. Substitution-proof by construction — there is no specification for the market to fail

spending authority (Ch.27 §27.5)

a number. A principle requires a judgment, which requires a conversation; a number does not

the sponsor (Ch.31 §31.8)

the executive whose objective and budget it is. Your actual client, and the only person who can move an executive's stage time

square feet per guest (Ch.11 §11.1)

seated dining allowance. 8 unservable · 10 tight · 12 the working default · 15 generous

the stack by function (Ch.39 §39.3)

nine functions; four non-negotiable at ~$60/mo; function 8 (finding log, venue file, template library) is free and almost universally absent

staffing ratio (Ch.14 §14.1)

servers per guest. 1:20–1:25 plated, 1:30–1:35 family style, 1:40 buffet, 1:35 stations. The figure on a proposal nobody converts

staging (a balance) (Ch.7 §7.2.1)

splitting a single balance into several payments. Free, asked at booking, ~half say yes

staking vs. ballast (Ch.13 §13.2)

anchoring methods. Staking is cheaper and needs a utility locate; ballast is for surfaces that will not take a stake and consumes perimeter floor space

stated preference (Ch.4 §4.6)

what a client says matters. Frequently social

stated vs. revealed preference (Ch.3 §3.2)

what a client says matters versus what they spend time and energy on. The gap is diagnostic

stem count (Ch.17 §17.2a)

centrepiece 30–45, bouquet 35–55 (more than a centrepiece), garland 10–15 per linear foot, boutonniere 3–5

step map (Ch.5 §5.3)

the list of guest counts at which something expensive happens, and what each crossing costs

step-function cost (Ch.5 §5.2)

flat until a threshold, then jumps: tables, servers, bartenders, restroom brackets, tent frames, shuttles, dance floor, generator

the stopping condition (Ch.41 §41.8, CS2)

its function is measurement, not triggering. Almost nobody's ever fires — and it gives the bad November something to measure itself against

strike (Ch.13 §13.5)

breakdown and removal. Late-night labour, linen bagging, client property, and the final walkthrough

strike is 40–60% of build time (Ch.34 §34.3)

and everybody plans 25%

structural versus design constraint (Ch.41 §41.5a)

the distinction between what a job requires irreducibly — an event day is long, unseated, and at a time you do not choose — and what looks fixed but is chosen: the destination (three of the seven have no Saturdays), the service level (full planning is ~16 hours on your feet of 150–250; coordination inverts that), the order of the first hire, and whether the production book is good enough for somebody else to run the day

substitutability (Ch.28 §28.4)

four categories, not scenarios. A scenario playbook is infinite; a substitutability playbook has four rows and category D is four entries long

substitution authority (Ch.17 §17.5)

the florist's, bounded by the clause. Delegate a decision to whoever has the information; control it with a rule rather than with an approval

substitution clause (Ch.8 §8.2)

whether the named individual may be replaced. Critical wherever the client is buying a person rather than a service

the substitution clause (Ch.17 §17.5)

four bounds: colour range and scale · veto list · stem count and volume may not decrease · price. Notification, not approval

the suite (Ch.19 §19.1)

the printed set. Three pieces earn their place at any budget: the invitation, the website, and something that tells people where to sit

the supply-chain threshold (Ch.34 §34.1)

two crews need the same space at different times and neither can be moved. Below it you schedule tasks; above it you schedule space, access, and people

the surface hierarchy (Ch.16 §16.6)

dwell × eyes × proximity. Finds the table in front of a guest and the ceiling above them, both usually unbudgeted. The author's construction, not received practice

the sweep (Ch.27 §27.7)

four minutes, a fixed route, four or five times a day. You fix nothing while sweeping

switched circuit / inline switch (Ch.18 §18.3, CS2)

a switched circuit at a distro 90 ft away is useless at 7:20 p.m. A $12 inline switch at the point of use is what makes a cue possible

a system (Ch.39 §39.1)

not software. The mechanism by which a finding becomes a change — and without one, a planner's tenth wedding is their first wedding, ten times

the systems change (Ch.30 §30.10)

a finding that does not change a document, template, or checklist has not been learned. The output of a review is a diff against your own system

the systems test (Ch.39 §39.2)

could somebody competent run your next event from your documents, without you? If not, a broken ankle is a business failure

T

table assignment vs. seat assignment (Ch.11 §11.7)

guests told their table vs. every seat named. Long tables usually need the latter

table spacing (Ch.11 §11.2)

5 ft edge to edge is the working figure; 4 ft the absolute minimum

the tasting (Ch.14 §14.2)

four plates cooked to order in the caterer's kitchen. Not a rehearsal. Ask of each dish: how does this change at a hundred, in a field?

taxable service charge (Ch.6 §6.4)

sales tax applied to the service-charge-inclusive subtotal. Compounding; establish the tax base in writing, never assume

the temporary company (Ch.12 §12.1)

~18 businesses and 40–50 people, working sequentially and interdependently for eight hours, none of whom report to the planner

temporary structure permit (Ch.9 §9.6)

tent approval, often triggered above ~400 sq ft; usually requires stamped drawings and fire marshal sign-off

the ten-minute response (Ch.28 §28.4)

call/second number/office · the venue · two other suppliers · the bar and anything edible · the couple. And then reduce the problem

tent flooring (Ch.13 §13.2)

$2–$4 per sq ft installed; frequently more than the tent itself

the ten-trigger set (Ch.39 §39.2a)

applied from a template at signing, four minutes per event, and every row is a finding from an earlier chapter that would otherwise depend on remembering

the third conversation (Ch.3 §3.6)

the phone call made at the third instance of sharpness, after assuming stress twice. Voice, never writing

the three AV savings (Ch.31 §31.6)

fewer room changes · a shorter load-in · deciding what you are recording before the spec is written. None of them is cheaper kit

the three bets (Ch.37 §37.1)

flat fee: you absorb all uncertainty · percentage: shared badly · hourly: the client. Most planners choose the model that transfers all the risk to them, then price it as though there were none

the three defensible design forms (Ch.40 §40.5a)

a constraint · a principle · a consequence. And the fourth — the couple wanted it and it does no harm — is honest, is not a defence, and should be recorded as such

the three exits (Ch.41 §41.7)

the move · the stop · and the drift, which is the only failure, because nobody decided

the three jobs of a ceremony (Ch.20 §20.1)

make the marriage · say who these people are · include the room. The third is free and almost universally omitted

the three kinds of crisis (Ch.28 §28.1)

answered already · needs a decision now · cannot be solved. The commonest error is deliberating about a type 1; the most damaging is treating a type 3 as a type 2

the three sentences (Ch.40 CS2)

a handover carries the book plus the three things the book cannot make salient. If you cannot name yours, you do not know where your plan's weight sits

the three site-plan rules (Ch.34 §34.6)

two circulations that do not cross · a one-way service road · a 4-metre emergency lane that is nobody's overflow parking

the through-line (Ch.16 §16.2)

the single organising decision, stated as a rule with an edge rather than a mood. A through-line that cannot rule anything out has not decided anything

throughput (Ch.11 §11.3)

service rate. Bartender 30–45 mixed drinks/hr; buffet ~100 guests/hr per single-sided line

throughput (bar) (Ch.15 §15.4)

30–45 drinks/hr mixed, 60–80 beer and wine. The cocktail-hour spike is ~45% of first-hour demand in the first 20 minutes

tier boundaries (Ch.37 §37.6)

countable, phased, or a named deliverable. The test: could you and the client disagree about whether something is included?

the tool stack, in order (Ch.36 §36.7)

accounting · e-signature · storage · calendar · and only then a platform, which new planners buy first and should buy fourth

the top three (Ch.4 §4.4)

the protected categories, used to make every subsequent trade-off decidable without discussion

the translation table (Ch.4 §4.3)

the method of converting a feeling-word into three specifications from three different categories, then letting the client choose

the travel levers (Ch.35 §35.3)

where the event is · how many come · whether it is a destination event · coaches · on-site accommodation · car-sharing. The first three are decided before a planner is engaged

triage (Ch.27 §27.2)

four questions in ten seconds: will a guest notice · is it on the critical path · does it cost money or change something agreed · can somebody else do it

triggers (Ch.39 §39.2a)

a moment at which a document must be opened. Intention is not a trigger. Time · event · threshold (the most valuable and least common) · intention (zero)

the true hourly cost (Ch.37 §37.7)

fee less every event-specific cost less a share of annual fixed costs, ÷ every hour including pre-engagement. Most find a number 40–60% below what they believed

the twelve clauses (Ch.8 §8.2)

parties/date, scope, price and payment, cancellation, postponement, force majeure, remedy for non-performance, limitation of liability, indemnification, insurance, substitution/assignment, governing law

the twelve discoveries (Ch.24 §24.5a)

what a rehearsal typically finds. Nine of twelve are communication failures, findable from a desk at −2 weeks

the twenty questions (Ch.19 §19.3)

what every wedding generates. The four that fail most often: the end time, whether there is dinner, the ground surface, and how anybody gets home

the two chains (Ch.25 §25.5)

the build (dependencies, fails by a task not finishing) and the people (durations, fails by a person not being ready). They meet once

the two nobody puts on a checklist (Ch.35 §35.2)

travel and food, because they do not look like environmental decisions: “how many people and how far” is a guest-list conversation

the two opening questions (Ch.31 §31.1)

“what has to be true in June that isn't true now?” and — the useful one — “who gets asked whether it worked, and what will they be asked?”

two shapes, one end time (Ch.20 CS2)

where a decision is not yours and may not resolve early, build both and find the single variable it actually moves. Here: a start time

the two sweeps (Ch.30 §30.3)

22:00 and 23:00, same route, one person. The first is done from the list and the second from the room, and they find different things

the two-act structure (Ch.20 §20.3)

a friend performs the ceremony, a registrar does the paperwork separately. Removes the legal risk entirely for ten minutes

the two-document comparison (Ch.24 §24.5a)

the officiant's order read line by line against the run sheet. Six minutes, and it finds a discrepancy about a third of the time

the two-week window (Ch.30 §30.10)

after it you remember the shape and not the detail, and the detail is where the changes live

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the unaccompanied guest (Ch.29 §29.7)

no default person. Ch.27's “somebody outside for twenty minutes” is usually this. The fix is a name

the unanswered-question test (Ch.12 CS2)

counting RFP questions a proposal ignores. 6+ means they did not read it

underwriting (Ch.32 §32.8)

does NOT reduce cost per dollar raised. It buys a sentence: “every dollar you give tonight goes to the ward” — worth more than the money it describes

the unit convention (Ch.39 §39.5)

“89 — seated dinner @ 12 sq ft”. Four separate errors in this book were the same error, and four words fix all of them

the unit (processional) (Ch.20 §20.4)

whatever walks at one time. 30–60 seconds each; use 45 for a 60–80 ft aisle

universal design (Ch.29 §29.4)

printed vows cost about eleven dollars and serve the deaf guest, row nine, and the grandmother. Designing for the hardest case is cheaper than retrofitting

unprogrammed time (Ch.33 §33.6)

your guests are on holiday and it is a holiday they paid for. One completely empty day, minimum. Offer activities; do not organise them

the unsolvable crisis (Ch.28 §28.8)

a death, an illness, a rupture. Not a problem to be solved, and the competent planner's instinct to fix it is exactly wrong

uplighting (Ch.18 §18.1, §18.3a)

accent light on a surface. 15–30 W, $25–$45. Pull it 12–18 in off the wall and angle it 10–20° and the same fixture lights three times the area

usage rights (Ch.23 §23.7)

the couple's licence and the photographer's marketing use are different permissions. Raw files are almost always no, and the reason is legitimate

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variance (Ch.6 §6.6)

contracted minus estimate. An alarm, not accounting; its value is entirely in going off early

vase life (Ch.17 §17.1)

how long a stem lasts after cutting. Determines what can be installed on Friday and whether cold storage is needed at all

vendor (Ch.1 §1.3)

any contracted service provider at an event: caterer, florist, photographer, band, rentals, transport, and the rest

the vendor debrief (Ch.30 §30.7)

“what did I make harder than it needed to be?” It works because it is an admission rather than a request, and what comes back is about your process

the vendor extract (Ch.25 §25.8)

their part plus context. Context converts an executor into a participant

vendor matrix (Ch.12 §12.3)

the source-of-truth document. The certificate table, contact sheet, power budget, timeline, and vendor-meal count are all filtered views of it. Built from a walk through the day, not from contracts

vendor meal (Ch.12 §12.8, Ch.14 §14.7)

crew catering, $30–$40 each, contractually required by most, omitted from most first-draft budgets, and read as a signal by everyone · Also: crew fed after the guests and before the toasts, so the photographer and DJ are working when it matters

the vendor pack (Ch.26 §26.6a)

one page: their tasks plus what is before, what is after, and the next hard anchor. Context converts an executor into a participant

venue (Ch.1 §1.3)

the site. Three types: all-inclusive (kitchen, staff, furniture, often catering), à la carte (room plus a list of what you must bring), raw site (ground and a view)

venue coordinator (Ch.1 §1.3)

venue staff who enforce the venue's rules and protect the venue's interests. Not the client's advocate, and usually not present for the whole event

the venue file (Ch.39 §39.6)

access, power, capacities with units, the people, curfews, and what goes wrong here. Closes Ch.34's corridor-conversation finding

venue scorecard (Ch.10 §10.5)

weighted criteria scored across candidates. Its function is not to decide but to make later consequences foreseen rather than surprising

verify from a source that is not the venue (Ch.33 §33.4)

“we handle everything” frequently means the flowers. The civil registry and the couple's consulate, in writing

versioning (Ch.25 §25.8)

a number and date in the header · the change stated at the top · distribution logged · the last one called FINAL, not v9 · and a vendor who has not acknowledged has not received it

the veto (Ch.4 §4.2)

a client's stated must-not-happen, recorded verbatim and distributed to every vendor

visible provision, invisible recipient (Ch.29 CS2)

the best accommodations are indistinguishable from good manners, and the accommodation should not make the person who needs it into an exhibit

vision document (Ch.4 §4.8)

the two-page deliverable: sentence, moments, ranking, specifications, vetoes, annotated anchor images, and what this is not

vision interview (Ch.4 §4.2)

the 90-minute six-segment session, both partners and no parents, that produces moments, a ranking, and vetoes

the volume protocol (Ch.22 §22.8)

a hand signal agreed in advance · a physical test at the edge of the floor · and never touch the knob yourself

volunteer time is not free and is not fungible (Ch.32 §32.6)

a board member sorting auction items is the most expensive labour in the sector, because the one thing they can do that nobody else can is ask their friends for money

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waiver of subrogation (Ch.9 §9.4)

an insurer giving up its right to pursue a specified party after paying a claim

the walk-away conditions (Ch.10 §10.9)

six circumstances under which a planner should decline a venue or require written acknowledgement

the walked-forward production meeting (Ch.34 §34.7)

by hour, never by supplier — the only format in which two suppliers discover they were both promised the dock at seven

the wall copy (Ch.26 §26.5)

the run sheet at A3, taped in the kitchen and where the crew break. One print, and it answers about forty questions the planner would otherwise be asked

the warning (exclusion) (Ch.21 §21.4a)

where a rule excludes some guests, the whole of the planner's contribution is that nobody discovers it in the room. Descriptive, not apologetic

wayfinding (Ch.19 §19.5)

sign every point on the guest's route where somebody would stop and look around. Test: does it answer a question a guest would otherwise ask a human?

weather contingency capacity (Ch.10 §10.7)

how many guests the rain plan actually seats, with the furniture and functions the event requires. A rain plan that has not been measured is not a rain plan

the wedding party brief (Ch.24 §24.2a)

one page at −2 weeks, as a document rather than a group chat. Test: on Saturday morning, can somebody find out where to be without asking anybody?

the wedding period (Ch.21 §21.4b)

many traditions have several events with non-nested guest lists, separate hosts, and separate budgets. Typically ~15% of a weekend's spend, and not a warm-up

the wedding website (Ch.19 §19.1, §19.5a)

six pages. The highest-value item in the suite by an enormous margin, and treated as an afterthought at most weddings

what a carbon number misses (Ch.35 §35.4a)

water · biodiversity and land use · local pollution · plastic persistence · labour conditions. Use carbon to decide where effort goes; use judgment once you are there

what a recommender is worth (Ch.38 §38.1)

30 recommendations ÷ 3 names × 35% conversion × $8,400 = **$29,400 a year, for about six hours**

what a website is for (Ch.38 §38.4)

confirming a referral, not generating one. Four questions · five form fields · a starting-from figure, not a price list

what distance removes (Ch.33 §33.1)

distance does not add problems; it removes your ability to solve them by turning up. Six removals — and being there on the day is not one of them

“what do foreign planners get wrong here?” (Ch.33 §33.2)

the most valuable four minutes of the vetting call

what limited liability does not do (Ch.36 §36.2)

it does not cover your own negligence (insurance does) and it does not survive commingling. The structure is a container; a separate account makes it real

why findings die (Ch.39 §39.1)

found and fixed in the same column · the change lands in the wrong artefact · the artefact is not opened before the next event · filed under the wrong heading · and there are too many

the wine pull (Ch.32 §32.6)

the middle path. One ask to one merchant, an hour of setup, real money — and scope it at guest count × 0.9

the wrangler (Ch.23 §23.4)

a named person who knows the families by sight and holds the list. Not the planner, and the single biggest lever on family-photo time

576 terms. If one of them is not in the index, that is a defect — see Index.