Chapter 26 — Quiz
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Multiple choice
1. In Western dating, exclusivity is: - A) assumed from the first date - B) NOT assumed — it must be explicitly discussed ("the talk") - C) never possible - D) decided by families
2. Dating more than one person early (before exclusivity is agreed) is: - A) cheating - B) common and not considered cheating until exclusivity is established - C) illegal - D) always offensive
3. Consent in the West must be: - A) assumed unless someone says no - B) freely given, clear, ongoing, and revocable at any time - C) given once and permanent - D) implied by going on a date
4. Living together before marriage (cohabitation) in most Western cultures is: - A) taboo and rare - B) normal and common - C) illegal - D) only for the married
5. Online dating in the West is: - A) stigmatized and shameful - B) extremely common with no stigma - C) illegal - D) only for older people
6. LGBTQ+ relationships in most Western countries are: - A) illegal - B) legally protected and socially accepted in most areas - C) hidden - D) universally rejected
7. Family-involved/arranged partner selection is, per this chapter: - A) backward and oppressive - B) a coherent, valid system with real strengths (not inferior to Western dating) - C) illegal in the West - D) the same as Western dating
8. "The talk" / "DTR" refers to: - A) a breakup - B) the conversation that defines/establishes the relationship's commitment - C) a first date - D) meeting the parents
9. "Ghosting" means: - A) a romantic gesture - B) abruptly cutting off all contact with no explanation - C) being exclusive - D) a type of date
10. A genuine problem with Western dating (Honesty Box) is: - A) it's a romantic utopia - B) app commodification, ghosting, hookup pressure, high divorce, dating fatigue - C) too much commitment - D) no choice
11. (new) The absence of a clear, enthusiastic "yes" means: - A) yes - B) no — stop and ask - C) maybe - D) consent by context
12. (new) When you're between a family-involved and a Western dating system, the chapter recommends: - A) reject your family's system as oppressive - B) reject the Western system as immoral - C) see both as valid and choose consciously (they can blend) - D) let your friends decide
True / False
13. Going on several dates automatically means you're an exclusive couple. (True / False)
14. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, and the absence of an enthusiastic "yes" means no. (True / False)
15. Your own values (e.g., family involvement, waiting for marriage) are valid and you may keep them. (True / False)
16. The Western individual-choice model is clearly superior to family-involved selection. (True / False)
17. (new) Family-involved partner selection can include the person's own choice and consent. (True / False)
Short answer
18. Explain why "assuming exclusivity" causes heartbreak, and the fix.
19. State the core principles of consent (the non-negotiable part).
20. Why does the chapter call arranged/family-involved selection "not freedom vs. oppression"?
21. (new) How can someone "blend" the two relationship systems? Give one concrete example.
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Answer Key
- B. 2. B. 3. B. 4. B. 5. B. 6. B. 7. B. 8. B. 9. B. 10. B. 11. B (no — stop and ask). 12. C (both valid; choose consciously; blend).
- False — exclusivity must be explicitly agreed. 14. True. 15. True. 16. False — both are coherent systems with different strengths. 17. True.
- Model: Exclusivity isn't assumed in Western dating, so assuming you're a couple after a few dates (as dating may imply elsewhere) leads to feeling betrayed when the other person dates others — though no commitment was made. Fix: have "the talk" if you want exclusivity ("are we exclusive?").
- Model: Consent must be freely given, clear, ongoing, and revocable at any time; it can't be given by someone incapacitated or coerced; the absence of an enthusiastic "yes" means no — when in doubt, ask and respect the answer. (Non-negotiable, legally and morally.)
- Model: It's a common, unfair Western misread; family-involved selection is a coherent system optimizing for stability, compatibility, and community support (and can produce deep love), not an absence of freedom — different strengths, not oppression.
- Model: E.g., choosing your own partner with family input/blessing, or accepting family introductions but getting to know the person yourself and retaining full choice/consent — choice and family support together.