Bibliography

This bibliography includes all primary sources cited or directly drawn upon in How to Handle Confrontation: Tools, Techniques, Process, and Psychology Around Difficult Conversations, as well as key works that shaped the intellectual and practical foundations of the text. Works are organized into ten thematic sections and formatted in APA 7th edition. Where a work is foundational to multiple chapters, it appears once under its primary category.

1. Conflict and Confrontation (General)

Augsburger, D. (1992). Conflict mediation across cultures: Pathways and patterns. Westminster/John Knox Press.

Bolton, R. (1979). People skills: How to assert yourself, listen to others, and resolve conflicts. Simon & Schuster.

Burton, J. W. (1990). Conflict: Resolution and provention. St. Martin's Press.

Cloke, K., & Goldsmith, J. (2011). Resolving conflicts at work: Ten strategies for everyone on the job (3rd ed.). Jossey-Bass.

Coleman, P. T. (2011). The five percent: Finding solutions to seemingly impossible conflicts. PublicAffairs.

Coleman, P. T., Deutsch, M., & Marcus, E. C. (Eds.). (2014). The handbook of conflict resolution: Theory and practice (3rd ed.). Jossey-Bass.

Dana, D. (2001). Conflict resolution: Mediation tools for everyday worklife. McGraw-Hill.

De Dreu, C. K. W., & Weingart, L. R. (2003). Task versus relationship conflict, team performance, and team member satisfaction: A meta-analysis. Journal of Applied Psychology, 88(4), 741–749. https://doi.org/10.1037/0021-9010.88.4.741

Deutsch, M. (1973). The resolution of conflict: Constructive and destructive processes. Yale University Press.

Deutsch, M., Coleman, P. T., & Marcus, E. C. (Eds.). (2006). The handbook of conflict resolution: Theory and practice (2nd ed.). Jossey-Bass.

Gottman, J. M. (1994). What predicts divorce: The relationship between marital processes and marital outcomes. Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work: A practical guide from the country's foremost relationship expert. Crown Publishers.

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2012). What makes love last? How to build trust and avoid betrayal. Simon & Schuster.

Jeong, H.-W. (2008). Understanding conflict and conflict analysis. Sage Publications.

Johnson, D. W., & Johnson, R. T. (1989). Cooperation and competition: Theory and research. Interaction Book Company.

Johnson, D. W., & Johnson, R. T. (2009). Joining together: Group theory and group skills (10th ed.). Pearson.

Lerner, H. G. (1985). The dance of anger: A woman's guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships. Harper & Row.

Lerner, H. G. (1989). The dance of intimacy: A woman's guide to courageous acts of change in key relationships. Harper & Row.

Lerner, H. G. (2017). Why won't you apologize? Healing big betrayals and everyday hurts. Touchstone.

Mayer, B. (2000). The dynamics of conflict resolution: A practitioner's guide. Jossey-Bass.

Mayer, B. (2015). The conflict paradox: Seven dilemmas at the core of disputes. Jossey-Bass.

Patterson, K., Grenny, J., McMillan, R., & Switzler, A. (2012). Crucial conversations: Tools for talking when stakes are high (2nd ed.). McGraw-Hill.

Patterson, K., Grenny, J., McMillan, R., & Switzler, A. (2013). Crucial accountability: Tools for resolving violated expectations, broken commitments, and bad behavior (2nd ed.). McGraw-Hill.

Pruitt, D. G., & Kim, S. H. (2004). Social conflict: Escalation, stalemate, and settlement (3rd ed.). McGraw-Hill.

Pruitt, D. G., & Rubin, J. Z. (1986). Social conflict: Escalation, stalemate, and settlement. Random House.

Stone, D., Patton, B., & Heen, S. (2010). Difficult conversations: How to discuss what matters most (2nd ed.). Penguin Books.

Thomas, K. W. (1992). Conflict and conflict management: Reflections and update. Journal of Organizational Behavior, 13(3), 265–274. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.4030130307

Thomas, K. W., & Kilmann, R. H. (1974). Thomas-Kilmann conflict mode instrument. Xicom.

Thomas, K. W., & Kilmann, R. H. (1977). Developing a forced-choice measure of conflict-handling behavior: The "mode" instrument. Educational and Psychological Measurement, 37(2), 309–325. https://doi.org/10.1177/001316447703700204

Wilmot, W. W., & Hocker, J. L. (2011). Interpersonal conflict (8th ed.). McGraw-Hill.

2. Communication and Language

Alberti, R., & Emmons, M. (2017). Your perfect right: Assertiveness and equality in your life and relationships (10th ed.). Impact Publishers.

Berne, E. (1964). Games people play: The basic handbook of transactional analysis. Ballantine Books.

Grice, H. P. (1975). Logic and conversation. In P. Cole & J. Morgan (Eds.), Syntax and semantics: Vol. 3. Speech acts (pp. 41–58). Academic Press.

Hall, E. T. (1959). The silent language. Doubleday.

Hall, E. T. (1976). Beyond culture. Anchor Press.

Isaacs, W. (1999). Dialogue and the art of thinking together: A pioneering approach to communicating in business and in life. Currency.

Knapp, M. L., Hall, J. A., & Horgan, T. G. (2013). Nonverbal communication in human interaction (8th ed.). Wadsworth Cengage Learning.

Luft, J., & Ingham, H. (1955). The Johari window: A graphic model of interpersonal awareness. In Proceedings of the western training laboratory in group development. UCLA Extension Office.

Mehrabian, A. (1972). Nonverbal communication. Aldine-Atherton.

Nichols, M. P. (2009). The lost art of listening: How learning to listen can improve relationships (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.

Rosenberg, M. B. (2003). Nonviolent communication: A language of life (2nd ed.). PuddleDancer Press.

Rosenberg, M. B. (2005). Speak peace in a world of conflict: What you say next will change your world. PuddleDancer Press.

Satir, V. (1972). Peoplemaking. Science and Behavior Books.

Satir, V. (1988). The new peoplemaking. Science and Behavior Books.

Schein, E. H. (2013). Humble inquiry: The gentle art of asking instead of telling. Berrett-Koehler Publishers.

Smith, M. J. (1975). When I say no, I feel guilty: How to cope using the skills of systematic assertive therapy. Dial Press.

Tannen, D. (1990). You just don't understand: Women and men in conversation. William Morrow.

Tannen, D. (1994). Talking from 9 to 5: Women and men at work. William Morrow.

Ury, W. (2007). The power of a positive no: How to say no and still get to yes. Bantam Books.

Watzlawick, P., Beavin Bavelas, J., & Jackson, D. D. (1967). Pragmatics of human communication: A study of interactional patterns, pathologies, and paradoxes. W. W. Norton & Company.

3. Emotion and Psychology

Beck, A. T. (1979). Cognitive therapy and the emotional disorders. Penguin Books.

Damasio, A. (1994). Descartes' error: Emotion, reason, and the human brain. Putnam.

Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The new psychology of success. Random House.

Ekman, P. (1992). An argument for basic emotions. Cognition & Emotion, 6(3–4), 169–200. https://doi.org/10.1080/02699939208411068

Ekman, P. (2003). Emotions revealed: Recognizing faces and feelings to improve communication and emotional life. Times Books.

Ellis, A. (1962). Reason and emotion in psychotherapy. Lyle Stuart.

Eurich, T. (2017). Insight: The surprising truth about how others see us, how we see ourselves, and why the answers matter more than we think. Crown Business.

Feldman Barrett, L. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.

Goleman, D. (1995). Emotional intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ. Bantam Books.

Goleman, D. (2006). Social intelligence: The new science of human relationships. Bantam Books.

Gross, J. J. (1998). Antecedent- and response-focused emotion regulation: Divergent consequences for experience, expression, and physiology. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 74(1), 224–237. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.74.1.224

Gross, J. J. (2002). Emotion regulation: Affective, cognitive, and social consequences. Psychophysiology, 39(3), 281–291. https://doi.org/10.1017/S0048577201393198

Gross, J. J. (Ed.). (2014). Handbook of emotion regulation (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (1990). Full catastrophe living: Using the wisdom of your body and mind to face stress, pain, and illness. Delacorte Press.

Kahneman, D. (2011). Thinking, fast and slow. Farrar, Straus and Giroux.

LeDoux, J. (1996). The emotional brain: The mysterious underpinnings of emotional life. Simon & Schuster.

LeDoux, J. E. (1994). Emotion, memory and the brain. Scientific American, 270(6), 50–57. https://doi.org/10.1038/scientificamerican0694-50

Maslow, A. H. (1943). A theory of human motivation. Psychological Review, 50(4), 370–396. https://doi.org/10.1037/h0054346

Maslow, A. H. (1954). Motivation and personality. Harper & Row.

Mayer, J. D., Salovey, P., & Caruso, D. R. (2004). Emotional intelligence: Theory, findings, and implications. Psychological Inquiry, 15(3), 197–215. https://doi.org/10.1207/s15327965pli1503_02

Neff, K. (2011). Self-compassion: The proven power of being kind to yourself. William Morrow.

Pennebaker, J. W., & Beall, S. K. (1986). Confronting a traumatic event: Toward an understanding of inhibition and disease. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 95(3), 274–281. https://doi.org/10.1037/0021-843X.95.3.274

Rock, D. (2008). SCARF: A brain-based model for collaborating with and influencing others. NeuroLeadership Journal, 1, 44–52.

Rock, D. (2009). Your brain at work: Strategies for overcoming distraction, regaining focus, and working smarter all day long. HarperCollins.

Rogers, C. R. (1961). On becoming a person: A therapist's view of psychotherapy. Houghton Mifflin.

Salovey, P., & Mayer, J. D. (1990). Emotional intelligence. Imagination, Cognition and Personality, 9(3), 185–211. https://doi.org/10.2190/DUGG-P24E-52WK-6CDG

Seligman, M. E. P. (2002). Authentic happiness: Using the new positive psychology to realize your potential for lasting fulfillment. Free Press.

Seligman, M. E. P. (2011). Flourish: A visionary new understanding of happiness and well-being. Free Press.

Siegel, D. J. (1999). The developing mind: How relationships and the brain interact to shape who we are. Guilford Press.

Siegel, D. J. (2010). Mindsight: The new science of personal transformation. Bantam Books.

Siegel, D. J. (2012). The developing mind: How relationships and the brain interact to shape who we are (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.

Tversky, A., & Kahneman, D. (1981). The framing of decisions and the psychology of choice. Science, 211(4481), 453–458. https://doi.org/10.1126/science.7455683

4. Workplace and Organizational

Argyris, C. (1990). Overcoming organizational defenses: Facilitating organizational learning. Prentice Hall.

Argyris, C., & Schön, D. (1978). Organizational learning: A theory of action perspective. Addison-Wesley.

Babcock, L., & Laschever, S. (2003). Women don't ask: Negotiation and the gender divide. Princeton University Press.

Blanchard, K., & Johnson, S. (1982). The one minute manager. William Morrow.

Chamorro-Premuzic, T. (2017). The talent delusion: Why data, not intuition, is the key to unlocking human potential. Piatkus.

Edmondson, A. C. (1999). Psychological safety and learning behavior in work teams. Administrative Science Quarterly, 44(2), 350–383. https://doi.org/10.2307/2666999

Edmondson, A. C. (2018). The fearless organization: Creating psychological safety in the workplace for learning, innovation, and growth. Wiley.

Ericsson, K. A., Krampe, R. T., & Tesch-Römer, C. (1993). The role of deliberate practice in the acquisition of expert performance. Psychological Review, 100(3), 363–406. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.100.3.363

Grant, A. M. (2013). Give and take: A revolutionary approach to success. Viking.

Grant, A. M. (2021). Think again: The power of knowing what you don't know. Viking.

Grenny, J., Patterson, K., Maxfield, D., McMillan, R., & Switzler, A. (2013). Influencer: The new science of leading change (2nd ed.). McGraw-Hill.

Heifetz, R. A., & Linsky, M. (2002). Leadership on the line: Staying alive through the dangers of leading. Harvard Business School Press.

Kegan, R., & Lahey, L. L. (2009). Immunity to change: How to overcome it and unlock potential in yourself and your organization. Harvard Business Press.

Lencioni, P. (2002). The five dysfunctions of a team: A leadership fable. Jossey-Bass.

Schein, E. H. (2016). Organizational culture and leadership (5th ed.). Wiley.

Scott, K. (2017). Radical candor: Be a kick-ass boss without losing your humanity. St. Martin's Press.

Senge, P. M. (1990). The fifth discipline: The art and practice of the learning organization. Doubleday.

Stone, D., & Heen, S. (2014). Thanks for the feedback: The science and art of receiving feedback well. Viking.

Sutton, R. I. (2007). The no asshole rule: Building a civilized workplace and surviving one that isn't. Business Plus.

5. Family and Relationships

Bowen, M. (1978). Family therapy in clinical practice. Jason Aronson.

Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and loss: Vol. 1. Attachment. Basic Books.

Bowlby, J. (1973). Attachment and loss: Vol. 2. Separation: Anxiety and anger. Basic Books.

Brown, B. (2010). The gifts of imperfection: Let go of who you think you're supposed to be and embrace who you are. Hazelden Publishing.

Brown, B. (2012). Daring greatly: How the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead. Gotham Books.

Enright, R. D., & Fitzgibbons, R. P. (2015). Forgiveness therapy: An empirical guide for resolving anger and restoring hope. American Psychological Association.

Enright, R. D., & the Human Development Study Group. (1991). The moral development of forgiveness. In W. Kurtines & J. Gewirtz (Eds.), Handbook of moral behavior and development (Vol. 1, pp. 123–152). Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.

Gordon, T. (1970). Parent effectiveness training: The proven program for raising responsible children. Three Rivers Press.

Gottman, J. M. (1994). Why marriages succeed or fail: And how you can make yours last. Simon & Schuster.

Gottman, J. M., & DeClaire, J. (1997). The heart of parenting: How to raise an emotionally intelligent child. Simon & Schuster.

Gottman, J. M., & Gottman, J. S. (2015). 10 principles for doing effective couples therapy. W. W. Norton & Company.

Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (2000). The timing of divorce: Predicting when a couple will divorce over a 14-year period. Journal of Marriage and Family, 62(3), 737–745. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2000.00737.x

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work: A practical guide from the country's foremost relationship expert. Crown Publishers.

Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52(3), 511–524. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.52.3.511

Johnson, S. M. (2004). The practice of emotionally focused couple therapy: Creating connection (2nd ed.). Brunner-Routledge.

Lazare, A. (2004). On apology. Oxford University Press.

Lerner, H. G. (2017). Why won't you apologize? Healing big betrayals and everyday hurts. Touchstone.

Markman, H. J., Stanley, S. M., & Blumberg, S. L. (2010). Fighting for your marriage (3rd ed.). Jossey-Bass.

Minuchin, S. (1974). Families and family therapy. Harvard University Press.

Napier, A. Y., & Whitaker, C. A. (1978). The family crucible. Harper & Row.

Satir, V. (1988). The new peoplemaking. Science and Behavior Books.

Solomon, M. F., & Tatkin, S. (2011). Love and war in intimate relationships: Connection, disconnection, and mutual regulation in couple therapy. W. W. Norton & Company.

Tatkin, S. (2012). Wired for love: How understanding your partner's brain and attachment style can help you defuse conflict and build a secure relationship. New Harbinger Publications.

6. Trauma and Special Topics

Dana, D. (2018). The polyvagal theory in therapy: Engaging the rhythm of regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.

Freyd, J. J. (1997). Violations of power, adaptive blindness and betrayal trauma theory. Feminism & Psychology, 7(1), 22–32. https://doi.org/10.1177/0959353597071004

Herman, J. L. (1992). Trauma and recovery: The aftermath of violence — from domestic abuse to political terror. Basic Books.

Levine, P. A. (1997). Waking the tiger: Healing trauma. North Atlantic Books.

Menakem, R. (2017). My grandmother's hands: Racialized trauma and the pathway to mending our hearts and bodies. Central Recovery Press.

Porges, S. W. (2011). The polyvagal theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.

van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Viking.

Walker, P. (2013). Complex PTSD: From surviving to thriving. Azure Coyote.

7. Negotiation and Dispute Resolution

Babcock, L., & Laschever, S. (2003). Women don't ask: Negotiation and the gender divide. Princeton University Press.

Cialdini, R. B. (2006). Influence: The psychology of persuasion (Rev. ed.). HarperCollins.

Fisher, R., & Shapiro, D. (2005). Beyond reason: Using emotions as you negotiate. Viking.

Fisher, R., Ury, W., & Patton, B. (1991). Getting to yes: Negotiating agreement without giving in (2nd ed.). Penguin Books.

Kolb, D. M., & Williams, J. (2003). Everyday negotiation: Navigating the hidden agendas in bargaining. Jossey-Bass.

Lax, D. A., & Sebenius, J. K. (1986). The manager as negotiator: Bargaining for cooperation and competitive gain. Free Press.

Mnookin, R. H. (2010). Beyond winning: Negotiating to create value in deals and disputes. Harvard University Press.

Mnookin, R. H., Peppet, S. R., & Tulumello, A. S. (2000). Beyond winning: Negotiating to create value in deals and disputes. Belknap Press.

Moore, C. W. (2014). The mediation process: Practical strategies for resolving conflict (4th ed.). Jossey-Bass.

Raiffa, H. (1982). The art and science of negotiation. Belknap Press.

Shapiro, D. (2016). Negotiating the nonnegotiable: How to resolve your most emotionally charged conflicts. Viking.

Shell, G. R. (2006). Bargaining for advantage: Negotiation strategies for reasonable people (2nd ed.). Penguin Books.

Susskind, L., & Cruikshank, J. (1987). Breaking the impasse: Consensual approaches to resolving public disputes. Basic Books.

Ury, W. (1993). Getting past no: Negotiating in difficult situations (Rev. ed.). Bantam Books.

Ury, W. (2007). The power of a positive no: How to say no and still get to yes. Bantam Books.

Zehr, H. (2002). The little book of restorative justice. Good Books.

Zehr, H. (2015). The little book of restorative justice (Rev. ed.). Good Books.

8. Cross-Cultural Communication

Brett, J. M. (2014). Negotiating globally: How to negotiate deals, resolve disputes, and make decisions across cultural boundaries (3rd ed.). Jossey-Bass.

Earley, P. C., & Ang, S. (2003). Cultural intelligence: Individual interactions across cultures. Stanford Business Books.

Gudykunst, W. B. (Ed.). (2005). Theorizing about intercultural communication. Sage Publications.

Hall, E. T. (1959). The silent language. Doubleday.

Hall, E. T. (1976). Beyond culture. Anchor Press.

Hofstede, G. (2001). Culture's consequences: Comparing values, behaviors, institutions, and organizations across nations (2nd ed.). Sage Publications.

Hofstede, G., Hofstede, G. J., & Minkov, M. (2010). Cultures and organizations: Software of the mind (3rd ed.). McGraw-Hill.

Matsumoto, D. (1990). Cultural similarities and differences in display rules. Motivation and Emotion, 14(3), 195–214. https://doi.org/10.1007/BF00995569

Meyer, E. (2014). The culture map: Breaking through the invisible boundaries of global business. PublicAffairs.

Sue, D. W., & Sue, D. (2012). Counseling the culturally diverse: Theory and practice (6th ed.). Wiley.

Tajfel, H., & Turner, J. C. (1979). An integrative theory of intergroup conflict. In W. G. Austin & S. Worchel (Eds.), The social psychology of intergroup relations (pp. 33–47). Brooks/Cole.

Thomas, D. C., & Inkson, K. (2009). Cultural intelligence: Living and working globally (2nd ed.). Berrett-Koehler Publishers.

Ting-Toomey, S. (1988). Intercultural conflict styles: A face-negotiation theory. In Y. Y. Kim & W. B. Gudykunst (Eds.), Theories in intercultural communication (pp. 213–235). Sage Publications.

Ting-Toomey, S. (1999). Communicating across cultures. Guilford Press.

Ting-Toomey, S., & Oetzel, J. G. (2001). Managing intercultural conflict effectively. Sage Publications.

Triandis, H. C. (1995). Individualism and collectivism. Westview Press.

9. Classic Philosophical Works

Arendt, H. (1958). The human condition. University of Chicago Press.

Aristotle. (2009). Nicomachean ethics (W. D. Ross, Trans.; L. Brown, Ed.). Oxford University Press. (Original work published ca. 350 BCE)

Buber, M. (1958). I and thou (R. G. Smith, Trans.). Scribner. (Original work published 1923)

Frankl, V. E. (1959). Man's search for meaning. Beacon Press.

Hanh, T. N. (1987). Being peace. Parallax Press.

Hanh, T. N. (2001). Anger: Wisdom for cooling the flames. Riverhead Books.

James, W. (1890). The principles of psychology. Henry Holt.

Kant, I. (1785). Groundwork of the metaphysics of morals (M. Gregor, Trans.). Cambridge University Press. (Original work published 1785)

Marcus Aurelius. (2003). Meditations (G. Hays, Trans.). Modern Library. (Original work written ca. 161–180 CE)

Mill, J. S. (1859). On liberty. John W. Parker and Son.

Rawls, J. (1971). A theory of justice. Belknap Press.

Weil, S. (1951). Waiting for God (E. Craufurd, Trans.). G. P. Putnam's Sons.

10. Self-Assessment and Practice Resources

Ericsson, K. A., & Pool, R. (2016). Peak: Secrets from the new science of expertise. Eamon Dolan/Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.

Eurich, T. (2017). Insight: The surprising truth about how others see us, how we see ourselves, and why the answers matter more than we think. Crown Business.

Gladwell, M. (2005). Blink: The power of thinking without thinking. Little, Brown and Company.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (1994). Wherever you go, there you are: Mindfulness meditation in everyday life. Hyperion.

Kahler, T. (1974). The miniscript. Transactional Analysis Journal, 4(1), 26–42. https://doi.org/10.1177/036215377400400106

Neff, K. (2011). Self-compassion: The proven power of being kind to yourself. William Morrow.

Prochaska, J. O., DiClemente, C. C., & Norcross, J. C. (1992). In search of how people change: Applications to addictive behaviors. American Psychologist, 47(9), 1102–1114. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.47.9.1102

Thomas, K. W., & Kilmann, R. H. (1974). Thomas-Kilmann conflict mode instrument. Xicom.

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